Mr.Mister Posted November 25, 2019 Share Posted November 25, 2019 I used to be extremely patient, relaxed, laid back, and never really got that angry. And, I was content with my life, but not happy. Then, I moved to Japan, met an amazing woman and I felt truly happy just being with her! Now, we are married, and being with my wife is wonderful and I love her so much. But, nowadays, since we have a kid and I have a job that takes up almost all my time, we don't really get to hang out anymore; I don't have "me" time, she doesn't have "me" time, and we don't really have "us" time either. It's mostly a routine of: get up early, go to work, work hard all day, come home very late, do lots of household chores, go to bed really late, repeat. I am extremely exhausted, and I have become easily frustrated, easy to irritate, and have lost most of my patience. It even surprises me sometimes, because something little will be enough to make me go " it" and give up, rather than just say "oh well" and keep going, like I used to. I know life will get better eventually and I'll find a new job at some point. Also, I'm sure, as my child grows older, she'll be able to take care of herself a little more, and need my constant attention and everything less, which will give me more time. I get I just need to be patient and wait. But, as I said, my patience is very short now, and I am miserable. Sometimes I feel, if I just left Japan and moved back to the States, I could get a job there easier, wouldn't have to deal with the terrible Japanese work culture, and wouldn't have to worry about all the household chores and all the stresses of home. But, I can't leave, because of my family. So, at least for now, I'm trapped here. I'll keep looking to a future, long from now, when I'll be able to have time again, and my wife will have some time again, and I/we can be happy again. This is mostly a rant, but does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with stressful home and work life in the time being? Anyone in a similar situation? Thanks for reading all this. Link to comment
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