TheUMan Posted November 18, 2019 Share Posted November 18, 2019 Long story short, I started seeing a girl who recently moved close to my hometown. She has school on the weekdays but we’ve been constantly seeing each other during the weekends. She told me beforehand that she still has feelings for her ex and was concomitant with me; which I completely understood. Her ex is very emotionally manipulative. He would constantly bombard her with texts, emails, etc. she would constantly block him but then feel bad or be afraid he would hurt himself (which he has done in the past.). When she starts talking to someone new, he calls her horrible names and starts rumors about her. This was her first relationship and it lasted three years. They’ve been on and off for the past year. Everything is going well with us but she seems as if she’s very hot and cold at times. She’s planning a trip to her hometown where her ex will be and informed me that she might meet up with him and see if it’s worth giving him another chance. I respectfully told her that I’m not okay with that but we aren’t dating and she has every right to do so; but needs to understand that if she allows him in again, he won’t stop harassing us and that I don’t want to be with someone who’s ex is continuously orbiting around. She claims she doesn’t want to lose me and blocks him until he harasses her again. This cycle went on for a few weeks until I decided that I can’t do it anymore. I proceeded to respectfully and maturely end things with her. She’s currently pleading to remain friends with me, to which I refused. Was I too harsh on her? Should I have given her time? She broke up with this guy about ten times and he’s been emotionally abusing her since. My logic is that if she can’t stop now, she’ll never stop. I have very strong feelings for her but do not want to be constantly worried about her ex in our potential relationship. Also, as harassing as he is, she doesn’t seem like she has the strength to let go of him. Edit: I should also note that he’s only currently trying to get back together with her this time after learning that she’s been seeing me. Before that he’s been ghosting her. Link to comment
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