bobbins Posted November 6, 2019 Share Posted November 6, 2019 i don't know where to start. i love my older sister. we had a good relationship as kids. during teen years is when i started noticing some toxic behaviors in my sister, like moodiness, but it wasn't that prevalent and i thought she'd just grow out of them because we were just teens. well during college it became a huge problem. we'd all go out as a friend group and if something even slightly upset her she'd just be in a funk and take her anger out on others. it would happen so often people would say behind her back that they just expect a bad night with her because she always acted like that. we all felt like we had to walk on egg shells when we were around her because she took everything so literally and would always say people are being mean to her. when in reality they really weren't. i also started noticing her being jealous of me around that time. if we went out together and i got more attention then her, she'd get into another funk and always feel the need to tell me how i'm getting more attention as if i could control that. i genuinely would want to have a good night but it would just be another night about her and her self pity. she didn't and i honestly think she still thinks acting that way is okay even though, it just pushes people away from her. if you try to tell her that it's behavior that's pushing away people she'll deny it and act like her behavior is justified due to her having mental health problems. she can't take criticism to save her life and will make you seem like a bad person for giving her a critique. i just feel like she always has to mention how me being successful at a good amount of things makes her feel bad because she isn't. it doesn't make me feel good because it's like she can't be happy for me. like what does she get out of telling me these things? honestly. i could go on and on about the things she's done over the years, but this post would be entirely too long. i thought she'd grow out of acting this way but we're 25 and 27 years old. when on vacation we had another blow up with one another and i told her that most people don't have these moody nights like her. she was trying to say it's okay because it's a way for her to release what she's been feeling and that if it's a problem then i don't have to hang out with her. but also during this conversation she asked me why she isn't seen as likable.. it's like she's delusional to her own toxic behaviors and always tries to justify them. what do i do? it's been on my mind a lot lately. i just don't even know how to feel about my sister at this point. i tell her to get help but she refuses. i know i haven't been perfect but i actually accept my flaws and know i'm not a good person all the time. my sister used to think of herself as "selfless" and always painted me as the sister who would treat her like . when in reality, people tend to be more gravitated towards me and repelled by her. i just don't think a person who thinks they're this good of a person would be repelling this many people. Link to comment
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