JaRule Posted November 5, 2019 Share Posted November 5, 2019 Hi everyone, I am here for some insight to how my ex had handled our breakup. Some background info: He asked me out one night and we were driving around as per normal. He stopped the car and tried to get frisky but i stopped it and wanted to go home. He was very accommodating. On the way he started his conversation: Him: Have you ever fallen in love before? Me: I'm not sure if i have. I don't know what love is. Him: I have never fallen in love before but recently I fell in love with a girl. I know it is love because I can see myself growing old with her. Me: Do i know this girl? Him: No, you don't! Me: Have you had sex with her? Him: No. I am not sexually attracted to her. Me: OK. So all those times you said "I love you" to me meant nothing? Him: I could have fallen in love with you. It is extremely easy to fall in love with you. Me: But you didn't? Him: Silence!!!! Me: Ok then. Lets just delete and block each others' numbers and move on with a clean cut. He started hugging me and started telling me all the little things I have mentioned before, word for word, the place we first met 12 years ago and the exact duration we spoke for. Also told me that everytime I lean over to kiss him, he melts! The finale is when I asked him to take his phone he said 'I LOVE YOU"!!!!!!!! to me. I asked him to delete and block me there and then and i did the same and walked away with so much pain and confusion. Next few months were so tough! I was utterly confused. The whole incident just kept replaying in my head. I was tempted to call him and tok to him to get the closure I deserve. But i did not. I have successfully been in NC for 4 months. However I have seen that he had viewed my ig stories a couple of times though we aren't friends. So i've been moving on, working on myself. It has been a tough journey. I still love him and have very strong feelings for him still. But I have been staying strong and just doing everything I can to move on with my daily life. Thoughts of him pop up here and there. But I handle it well. However, yesterday I had a call from an unknown number. It kinda looked familiar. So i picked up the call. It was him! But this is what he said: Me: Hello? Him: Hello, Who is this? I am ! (Apparently he cud recognise my voice .... Fine) Me: Kel! Him: Oh! I saw some convos on my phone and was not sure who it was!!!!!!!!!!! (I was utterly dumbfounded) Me: Ok then! (And I hung up while he was still saying something) Not sure if i was rude! I thought I was going to be ok. But it just brought back so many memories! If his idea was to plant thoughts into my head. It worked! Which i am so angry about! What was his intention? Why did he do what he did? Please please do not tell me to just not think about it and move on. I hope it was that easy. I always realised that having some answers helps! Instead of sweeping it under the carpet? What could his motivations be? Is it to tell me he has forgotten me? Is it to indirectly tell me he has moved on? Is it to make me think of him more because he knows ive moved on? Should I call him back? Will I stroke his already enlarged EGO if i do that? What if he does not want to see me? Please help! Link to comment
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