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How do I Romantically/Sexually Re-Attract my Ex?

 

I have always been confident, funny, masculine and display other good traits around my Ex. However, I feel like in order to re-attract my Ex romantically and sexually, I need to switch it up somehow? Can any of you reading this give me some advice on some successful methods? I see her a lot in person so I will most likely display these face to face rather than texting.

 

I want my Ex back and feel like romantically and sexually re-attracting her will give me a good chance! I don't want her to meet someone else who does this and then takes her from me.

 

 

Let me know any useful methods and leave any other advice you think may help me :)

 

 

Thanks,

Alex

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You need to go to the gym more.

 

You need to learn the best pick up lines, the bestest.

 

You need to get rich. Earn more money, get a better job.

 

You need to buy a flash car, preferably red in colour, red is the colour of love and attraction.

 

You need to learn from masters of seduction. Be an alpha male by copying alpha males.

 

You need to get her jealous. Find a hot girl, take pictures with her and post them on social media. Make sure your ex can see them!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

OR...

 

You know, treat her like a human being rather than a puzzle to solve. If a connection is still there, if she is still single, maybe, just maybe, you can reconcile. If not, move on with your life and stop looking for magic tricks or short cuts to get her back. It will not work anyway.

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It sounds like she is not interested in anything superficial.

 

Relationships start off on a superficial level but generally only progress when there is something deeper.

You didn’t provide what she wanted.

And now you are asking for advice on how to give her more of what she doesn’t want.

 

Have you anything to offer her of what she does want?

Have you even considered what she wants? I’m asking that question rhetorically.

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Ok "re-attract" is a nonsense term those get-your-ex-back scam sites like to use to take advantage of hurting people and trick you into believing you have complete control over it by doing a few things like writing letters alternating with acting indifferent and the whole funny, confident, cocky thing.. The truth of the matter is there is a reason you broke up. Until that reason is fixed and both people wish to reconcile you'll have to accept things. Stop chasing her.

 

How do I Romantically/Sexually Re-Attract my Ex?

 

I have always been confident, funny, masculine and display other good traits around my Ex. I see her a lot in person so I will most likely display these face to face rather than texting.

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We never put a label on our relationship. Probably wrong to use the term Ex but did it for the purpose of this.

 

She feels like she isn’t ready for a relationship. Her reasoning is because it scares her, it panics her, stress and makes her want to “run away”.

 

I thought this was a nice polite way of saying wanting nothing we me but she has made it explicitly clear several times on multiple occasions that it’s with anyone, simply because she feels like she isn’t ready. She says she has never said no to me and never has; just right now she doesn’t feel ready.

 

I feel like if i can do more to sexually and romantically attract her again then this pressure and scare she feels will disappear.

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Were you actually dating or this a crush? She doesn't seem interested. The pick up artist and get your ex back sites you are googling are not helping. If she is telling you "you make her panic and want to run away" don't waste any more time on this.

 

Date other girls. Leave her alone . Stop stalking and harassing her before she gets a restraining order against you. There are plenty of other girls on campus to focus on and ask out.

We never put a label on our relationship. Her reasoning is because it scares her, it panics her, stress and makes her want to “run away”.
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We never put a label on our relationship. Probably wrong to use the term Ex but did it for the purpose of this.

 

She feels like she isn’t ready for a relationship. Her reasoning is because it scares her, it panics her, stress and makes her want to “run away”.

 

I thought this was a nice polite way of saying wanting nothing we me but she has made it explicitly clear several times on multiple occasions that it’s with anyone, simply because she feels like she isn’t ready. She says she has never said no to me and never has; just right now she doesn’t feel ready.

 

I feel like if i can do more to sexually and romantically attract her again then this pressure and scare she feels will disappear.

 

The best thing you can actually do is just walk away .....honestly ..the more you are in someones face the less chance you have .......let her have the time and space to be on her own and if she feels ready I assure you , she will contact you . Let her miss you and have time to think .

 

Importantly , respect her words ...she is not ready , pushing will push her so far away you will have no chance .

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Below I will post my full story. It is a bit long but please have a read. I am struggling at the moment with all of this. Thanks.

 

 

 

So I met this girl face to face where we both work. At first, for me there was not a strong physical attraction. However, what I did notice was that we clicked instantly and got on so well immediately - a connection some call it.

 

One evening, she messaged me via social media for general chat. This chat continued and we spoke to each other everyday via text/social media for around a year. At first, I felt like she had a strong interest in me. This is from the way she acted around me and wanted my attention. This worked well as we both got on so well and really clicked.

 

After a couple of months of talking more seriously, I offered to take her out on a date. We had such a good laugh and enjoyed it and kissed on the first date. We continued to go on dates, activities, go round each others houses and spent time together.

 

An important thing to note is that myself and her knew that we would never rush anything. Her ideal situation which she i heard her say was that she would like to talk to a boy for more than a year or longer in order to really know him before getting into anything. This girl is very set in her ways in the fact that she has ideal situations of how things should turn out, or how she would like.

 

However, knowing this, we still got on so well and really enjoyed each other that we continued. I felt we was only getting better and stronger. We went on a trip abroad together with friends, we have been to hotels and spas together alone and did many other actives.

 

It is really important to note that although we did not put any label on our relationship, we did the normal things which anyone in a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship would do. In terms of us being sexual, we did do some sexual aspects but not all. We spoke about it and her reason for not going the whole way was because I was not her boyfriend - She was very strict in that she would only ever have full sexual intercourse if it was with her boyfriend and even then would make him wait months. However, we did do other sexual activities. I personally think that this is very rare and old fashioned nowadays but this was the case - once again, showing her ideal situations.

 

So after around 11months of talking, 8 months of those being serious and also 7/8 months of going on dates and all our other various actives, I noticed a change in her general mood with me.

 

After asking her what was wrong, I finally got something out of her and she said that she had been thinking. She then continued to say the following:

"I feel like you want a girlfriend, but I don't want a boyfriend".

 

As soon as i read that, it broke my heart. Another important thing to note is that I do not catch feelings easily. The situation we had was good for me as we both knew neither of us wanted to rush anything. However, after this long period of time of spending time together and getting on so well, I had developed very very strong feelings for this girl and still do. I thought the absolute world of this girl and treated her how a girl should be treated. Even though we knew nothing was going to be rushed, in the later stages, I did begin to feel that I wanted a relationship with this girl and would of said the same for how she felt prior to her changing over the 2 weeks.

 

Her reasoning for not wanting a relationship was simply because she feels that she is not ready for a relationship. She says that it scares her, panic's her and stresses her out. Therefore she feels like she isn't ready yet. For me, I felt like this was a nice and polite way of saying that she does not want a relationship with me. However, whilst I do not 100% know for certain, she has told me explicitly several times on multiple occasions that it is not because of me, it's simply that she does not feel ready to have a relationship with anyone at all. Again, this broke my heart because of how well we connected.

 

Her parents loved me, her family and friends also. Her mum even said what a great boyfriend I would be for her. They all thought so highly of me and this was another reason why i felt things were going so well. Everything seemed to be falling into place.

 

 

Throughout the time of her telling me how she feels, she has made it very very clear by repeatedly saying on many different occasions, that her saying she is not ready for a relationship but at the same time is not saying 'No' to me.

 

She has made it explicitly clear that she is not saying we are completely over, she is not saying no to me but at the same time, she cant promise anything because she does not know when she will be ready.

 

 

 

After going back and forth for a couple weeks of telling each other how we exactly felt about each other, we had a chat face to face. I said I think it's probably for the best if we stop talking via text/social media. I felt we needed to do this because me talking to her having these feelings what be a 'look what you can't have' situation and I told her exactly that. At first, she was keen to keep chatting and to "just see what happens" but this has messed so much with my head, I said the above and again and she understood.

 

Since then, we have spoken about it. She says she is upset and is not particularly happy about it but at the same time said she cant say when she will be ready. She once again mentioned that she was not completely saying 'No' to me, she is just saying now is not the time.

 

 

So about 1 or 2 weeks ago of me writing this, she text me. Prior to this, we hadn't spoken to each other for a couple weeks via text - only face to face. She asked me how I was and other general chat. This chat has continued and i don't know what to do. I know for a fact that she sees our current conversation as just general chat between 2 people. However, it confuses me as to why she would bother messaging me? I still have these feelings for this girl and so still enjoy chatting to her, but should I be texting her when all the above has gone on? I don't know what to do?

 

Cutting contact off completely won’t be possible and this is because we see eachother every week almost everyday because of where we go out and where we work.

 

 

I really want to win this girl back over. I have always been confident around her, masculine, made her laugh, entertained her, looked after her and cared for her. As well as treating her the correct way and just in general being how you should be. But, this does of seemed to be enough? I don't know if it's possible to win this girl back over? I don't know what I should do going forward? Do I stop texting her? What do i do? I am so stuck and struggling to cope - I thought the absolute world of this girl and she knows that.

 

A couple more important things to note about this girl is the following. She is very stubborn and has a lot of pride. She is not boy crazy at all, I am actually the only 2nd boy ever to of been with her and she definitely does not want to have a lot of boys throughout her life. She is also very strong in the fact that she will not rely on a man for anything. She is unlike many other girls. She would never rush anything.

 

 

So overall, I want this girl back and for us to be in a relationship. Do you think this is possible? How should I handle this situation? Should I continue to text her daily or shall I say what I said before? Or do I just need to move on? Is there anyway to overcome this situation with the outcome i want?

 

Please try and give me the best advice to deal with this situation. She is unlike other girls and I feel like this situation is so rare.

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I thought this was a nice polite way of saying wanting nothing we me but she has made it explicitly clear several times on multiple occasions that it’s with anyone, simply because she feels like she isn’t ready. She says she has never said no to me and never has; just right now she doesn’t feel ready.

 

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You wrote what she said , why have you not listened or paid attention to what she said!?

 

You said yourself that she has explicitly said she is not wanting a relationship.

Why can’t you respect that?

 

If you are looking for a romantic relationship then seek someone that also is.

 

She said it’s not about you or anyone else. So it’s not personal.

 

Don’t take it personally.

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You want her back - back to what, exactly?

 

You were never in a relationship with her, and she's been very clear it's not going to become a relationship, either. It wasn't heading the direction you wanted; you just didn't fully understand that her position on not wanting a boyfriend has not changed. There is thus nothing to win back, so to speak, because she was never yours to begin with. You and she were on totally different pages in terms of your goals in spending time together.

 

I know it hurts. But you need to believe her when she says she doesn't want a relationship. Whether she doesn't have the stones to tell you she's just not that into you or whether she genuinely doesn't want to commit to anyone, the bottom line is the same - this is a futile mission on your part.

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The title of this post now doesn’t match the story but i mean “get back” as in get us back to how we was when it was all going well.

 

I have been planning to stop the contact and stop pursuing her . I just wanted to post on these forums to understand what other people thought.

 

I am planning to speak to her face to face to tell her that I wont be texting anymore and to stop contact

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I guess she is to be honest. Saying that she has never said no but can guarantee anything is stringing me along. Never thought I’d catch these deep feelings or every be in this situation because it aint like me. Asked me if id ever be like this before all this happened and i would of laughed.

 

Deep down, I know I have to stop the contact and move on. I just wanted to see other people’s opinions

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