JessD123 Posted October 29, 2019 Share Posted October 29, 2019 I have been living with my boyfriend (31) and his parent's for almost 3 years. I'd say basically the last 18 months she has driven me insane and I have just been putting up with it because I love my boyfriend. It is getting to the point where I hate her so much I've considered breaking up with him out of the fear she will be in my life forever! There are so many things she does that I have told other people about who think she sounds horrible. I will list them: 1. She doesn't respect boundaries: For instance, when we went away for a month to Europe she decided she would change out whole room around. She changed the curtains and bed sheets and she went through all our draws and cupboards to tidy them up. We have private things in our room which she went through. I had hidden lingerie right at the back of my wardrobe in a bag which she took out and put in my normal underwear draw. In our bedside table where we keep lube and where my boyfriend keeps his vaporiser for is weed was also tidied. His draw was chock full of his receipts and various other documents in 3 drawers which she managed to get down to one and she says she didn't throw anything out. She threw out his $600 vaporiser and to this day she denies throwing anything out. When we go away on holidays or short trips she sleeps in our bed. My partners dog sleeps with us on our bed but his dog will sleep anywhere as long as there is a person. She insists she has to sleep in our bed because it's Astro's bed. 2. She calls my boyfriend her "baby boy" sometimes which makes me feel really uncomfortable. For instance, if I am playfully teasing him she says "stop picking on my baby boy". I told my boyfriend when we were alone that I found it weird and he had no issue with it and said I was jealous. 3. She will also take digs at me and says she is just joking if I say something back. Examples: I decided I wanted to start drinking water instead of soft drink and reacts in a condescending tone "oh god, you're on a diet again". I reply with "no, I just want to start drinking water because it is better for you". Then she replies with "yeah, yeah, sure". And if I say I am tired she gets ty and says "how can you be tired, you do nothing" or "how can someone of your age be tired". 4. She is a very negative and toxic person but people outside of the family thinks she is so great and lovely and would do anything for anyone. I have heard her and complain about every person she is nice to and even her friends behind their backs. She will be nice to their faces and she swears by saying "if I have something to say I'll say it to their face". which she never does. She has nothing nice to say ever. It's always a complaint or a or gossiping. She has to know everyone's business. If you tell her in secret she will tell someone else your secret. 5. She keeps expecting that I will give her grandchildren when I have said I may not want children. 6. I want to do more travelling and want to live overseas. She said if I want to live overseas I can't marry her son. She was devastated when I took her son away from her for Christmas last year. She went on about it to everyone about how I was taking her baby boy away from her. I met up with my my boyfriend's brothers wife recently to discuss if she experienced the same things and boy did I found out a lot. She has experienced the same issues as me and probably worse than mine and now the wife and my boyfriends brother do not see his parent's much because of how painful they are. Anyway, there is way, way more I can write but it would take too long. I love my boyfriend and he is a really great guy. We only have issues when I get annoyed about his mum. I want to move out so badly but I can't afford to move out as my job is only casual and I don't make enough to pay rent yet. I know these are all excuses and you're probably thinking if it's that bad I should just move out. It's not bad with my boyfriend it's just his mum. I graduate at the end of this year and I am focusing on saving and moving out once I have graduated and will hopefully have a job which will allow me to afford rent. Link to comment
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