MittensPR Posted October 16, 2019 Share Posted October 16, 2019 I have read various tips and techniques to try and win your ex back but I am unsure whether to apply this in my situation.. Since about 2-3 months ago my ex and I became very distant, we were constantly arguing and disagreeing and his family would always get involved and put me down about my weight and how I was as a person, baring in mind I used to be at the family home constantly and help out with hospital appointments, shopping and being a general taxi I guess lol ! The family and his close friend would constantly twist conversations and make me look like a bad person or a psycho and tell him how much he would be better off without me, which eventually got too much for me. I felt insecure and drained and felt he never understood how I felt because he never experienced this with me. I then started a new job and was around this guy constantly at work and started to develop some sort of attraction to him, he was saying and doing all the things my ex wasn't. I felt myself starting to compare them both and talk myself out of love with my ex. I said if he felt like he would be better off with someone else he should go, which is how I was feeling at the time. Fast forward to the present, I never ever did anything with my coworker and wasn't planning to as having been cheated on in the past I couldn't bare to put someone else through the same. We had been on a few breaks and if I'm honest I wasn't happy, I felt undervalued and like I wasn't good enough for him anymore. However I realised I did still love him and couldn't see my future without him in it. We met up after the last break and I went to meet up hopeful and he said we should be friends which completely broke me. I was in floods of tears and this lasted a few days. I tried to convince him to give it a go because we had nothing to lose but after going back and forth of him wanting to work it out and then not. He refused to sleep with me anymore and branded me emotional and said we should date other people. I then told him I wasn't doing this anymore because he didn't deserve me and I wouldn't be throwing myself at him anymore with the hopes he would come to his senses as I was losing myself. After sometime he had contacted me 3 times in the following week and came to see me. His excuse was that he wanted to make sure I was alright. He was genuinely sorry for how he made me feel but no talks of us getting back together.. I was still positive and cheery around him because I didn't want him to know how I truly felt. We have now not spoken for 4 days running now but he did say to me he would let me know when he figured out what he wanted after I said I felt like he didn't know. I apologise for the length, this is a summary of the important parts. I am just seeking some advice?? I am currently studying, socialising, working out and trying to find a new hobby in a bid to work on myself in the meantime. Link to comment
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