boltnrun Posted October 13, 2019 Share Posted October 13, 2019 They're going to go together and share a hotel room. I know..."but they won't be sharing a bed!!" You really, really want this guy. So, carry on. Link to comment
LucyJane84 Posted October 13, 2019 Author Share Posted October 13, 2019 I dont believe that he has any intention of actually going Link to comment
boltnrun Posted October 13, 2019 Share Posted October 13, 2019 I dont believe that he has any intention of actually going Of course you don't. Do you want advice or reassurance? Link to comment
LucyJane84 Posted October 13, 2019 Author Share Posted October 13, 2019 Advice. And i dont, i think thats why hes put it off til after christmas Link to comment
boltnrun Posted October 13, 2019 Share Posted October 13, 2019 We've given you advice but you argue with all of it. It seems all you want to hear is this: "No, you shouldn't feel insecure! He does NOT want to go back to her! I'm sure he loves you and is only talking to her because of the kids! Everything is FINE!!" But we'd be lying. Again, you want him really, really bad (that's obvious) so you're going to believe what you want to believe. None of us can help with that. Link to comment
LucyJane84 Posted October 13, 2019 Author Share Posted October 13, 2019 Im not arguing with any of it. It seems to be a pretty unanimous vote that hes going to go back to her at some point. Ive just been trying to see it from all possible views. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted October 13, 2019 Share Posted October 13, 2019 My guess is he's going to play this "two for the price of one" game until he runs out of ways to cover his tracks. I also think he's playing you for a fool, but rather than face the music you're choosing to remain in denial which has a short shelf life. In short, this will continue until you wake up and smell the coffee, (no offense) or he decides to shop around for a better deal. What a catch! Link to comment
Leah33 Posted October 13, 2019 Share Posted October 13, 2019 They arent currently in a relationship. Theyre definitely broken up. Athough hes just been trying to convince her he hasnt ignored her today, thats its just that hes busy at work. I saw him texting. I think he forgets the mirror behind the bar at work so i can see what hes doing when hes stood with his back to it. And i dont want children. Ive only just finished uni, i had just come home and started this job when i met him. I plan to have my own business. Wouldn't the text be backwards if his back and his phone are to the mirror and you're reading them through the reflection in the mirror? Are you able to read backwards that easily? Nonetheless, this dynamic is bad news. Link to comment
LucyJane84 Posted October 13, 2019 Author Share Posted October 13, 2019 Yes its backwards and no its not always easy. Especially if its a long message. But they rarely are Link to comment
boltnrun Posted October 13, 2019 Share Posted October 13, 2019 Im not arguing with any of it. It seems to be a pretty unanimous vote that hes going to go back to her at some point. Ive just been trying to see it from all possible views. No, you're arguing YOUR point of view, which is how you want things to be. Be prepared is all I can tell you since you don't want to stop seeing him. Link to comment
LucyJane84 Posted October 13, 2019 Author Share Posted October 13, 2019 I am going to stop seeing him. And im not arguing any point of view. I have been stating what i know and trying to look at it from different angles to see if people opinions would still be the same Link to comment
MurphyB Posted October 13, 2019 Share Posted October 13, 2019 I think we are being played. It can't be real. I agree with this. This all seems very, very suss. I think this is all a joke. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted October 13, 2019 Share Posted October 13, 2019 I agree with this. This all seems very, very suss. I think this is all a joke. I don't. If I told you the things I did to try to stay in a relationship with the last guy I dated you'd think I was either making it up or maybe suffering from some sort of mental defect. That's why I'm trying so hard with this OP. I made a lot of the same mistakes and walked away with nothing but 4 years lost and getting dumped unceremoniously via email. I see the same thing happening here. Denial so deep rooted it can't be knocked loose with logic. Putting your hands over your ears and squeezing shut your eyes shouting "LA LA LA" so you can't see what's glaringly obvious to everyone else on the planet. Because you want this so very, very badly. I did too, and it was one of the biggest mistakes I've ever made in my life. I'm still angry with myself for what I did to try to keep a guy who wasn't worth jack squat. I'm just trying to help you see it, but if you don't want to you won't no matter what I or anyone else says. Link to comment
MurphyB Posted October 13, 2019 Share Posted October 13, 2019 I don't. If I told you the things I did to try to stay in a relationship with the last guy I dated you'd think I was either making it up or maybe suffering from some sort of mental defect. That's why I'm trying so hard with this OP. I made a lot of the same mistakes and walked away with nothing but 4 years lost and getting dumped unceremoniously via email. I see the same thing happening here. Denial so deep rooted it can't be knocked loose with logic. Putting your hands over your ears and squeezing shut your eyes shouting "LA LA LA" so you can't see what's glaringly obvious to everyone else on the planet. Because you want this so very, very badly. I did too, and it was one of the biggest mistakes I've ever made in my life. I'm still angry with myself for what I did to try to keep a guy who wasn't worth jack squat. I'm just trying to help you see it, but if you don't want to you won't no matter what I or anyone else says. I get what you are saying and I am so sorry to hear you stuck around so long and got so hurt. Am glad to hear you are trying to help this girl but something seems off to me. The story just keeps getting more and more farcical with each question asked or snippet of info about this guy. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted October 13, 2019 Share Posted October 13, 2019 I get what you are saying and I am so sorry to hear you stuck around so long and got so hurt. Am glad to hear you are trying to help this girl but something seems off to me. The story just keeps getting more and more farcical with each question asked or snippet of info about this guy. I would have seemed "off" to you too. I could describe the guy I dated to you and you'd ask me to check myself into some sort of facility. Charlie, I know you aren't happy with the advice you've received but I cannot blow sunshine up your behind. Your "different angles" are transparently the way you hope things are. But everything you've written shows this is not a quality man. None of us are going to encourage you to continue in this relationship or say he is the right guy for you. If you truly mean what you say and are not going to see him anymore, that would be the best decision IMO. PS: He'll try to convince you to keep sleeping with him. He won't want to lose his "harem". Link to comment
MurphyB Posted October 13, 2019 Share Posted October 13, 2019 Today he has ignored half of her messages. Although he has text her to say that hes not ignoring her How do you know this? Are you reading his phone/have access to it/demanding he shows you his phone messages to her? Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted October 14, 2019 Share Posted October 14, 2019 OP, please refer to your closed thread for answers to your questions. https://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=562165 Posting exactly the same thing and same questions again isn't going to yield different results. EDIT: OP, I don't know what you're trying to do here, but this previous thread indicates you are not the "new girlfriend" but the ex-fiancee. https://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=561876 It sure explains the obsessive questions about him, but you can't expect solid advice if you're not honest about who you actually are in this whole situation. Link to comment
LucyJane84 Posted October 14, 2019 Author Share Posted October 14, 2019 It wasnt that i was looking for different answers. I was posting to continue on from last night as there were questions on there i never got to answer and questions i still wanted to ask Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted October 14, 2019 Share Posted October 14, 2019 It wasnt that i was looking for different answers. I was posting to continue on from last night as there were questions on there i never got to answer and questions i still wanted to ask No, that isn't it. In light of a quick check into your posting history, and your jig is up. You might as well be honest that you are the ex-fiancee here, not the new girfriend. As I suspected, your details about how much you knew about "their" interactions didn't add up. You knew to0 much to have simply seen their messages in the "mirror behind the bar." It wasn't plausible. Now we know why. Quoting myself: "EDIT: OP, I don't know what you're trying to do here, but this previous thread indicates you are not the "new girlfriend" but the ex-fiancee. https://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=561876 It sure explains the obsessive questions about him, but you can't expect solid advice if you're not honest about who you actually are in this whole situation." Link to comment
LucyJane84 Posted October 14, 2019 Author Share Posted October 14, 2019 I am the new girlfriend. My previous post was to try and figure out if he would go back to her and the easiest way was to write it from her perspective. Thats why i asked for it to be closed as people were asking questions i didnt have answers to. She doesnt even know i exist Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted October 14, 2019 Share Posted October 14, 2019 I am the new girlfriend. My previous post was to try and figure out if he would go back to her and the easiest way was to write it from her perspective. Thats why i asked for it to be closed as people were asking questions i didnt have answers to Nice try. We can't help you if you are not mature enough to be honest on an anonymous message board, OP. What a waste of everyone's time. Link to comment
LucyJane84 Posted October 14, 2019 Author Share Posted October 14, 2019 I am being honest! I admit i was wrong to post my previous thread, i thought it wouldve been easier to see it from her perspective. But i really am being honest, im the girlfriend. Otherwise how would i know so much about the new girl that im claiming not to know exists? Also if i had 2 young children to care for alone surely i wouldnt have time to keep coming on here? Link to comment
LucyJane84 Posted October 14, 2019 Author Share Posted October 14, 2019 So now not only am i an idiot but im crazy too? I hold my hands up, i shouldnt have post my previous thread as if i was her but i am being genuine with these thread. I am the girlfriend, although not for much longer, and i do genuinely need advice. Link to comment
Honeycomb8 Posted October 14, 2019 Share Posted October 14, 2019 You need a psyche analysis. Lol like yesterday. Link to comment
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