Eaaathan Posted September 26, 2019 Share Posted September 26, 2019 Background: I'm currently a sophomore in college graduating a year early. I plan to get my phd in clinical psychology after my ba, and the problem with that is clinical psych is very competitive, so it's very likely that wherever I end up attending is going to be in a random state. The dating problem: I've been out of the dating scene for about a year to get my head on straight from my previous relationship, and all is well. I would like to get back into dating, but I can't help but overthink the future possibilities, some being that if I date anyone my age (19), I'll graduate at least a year before them, and be instantly whisked away somewhere in the country, and I don't plan on doing any LDRs since my last relationship ended as one. There are lots of other possibilities, and the only one I can see myself being with someone, is if they're my grade in college or older (so we can be together while I get my phd) and not going into graduate school of any kind, because the likelihood of both of us attending nearby graduate schools, is very low. Another thing is that many people at my university are currently in a medical early-acceptance program, which anchors them to the medical school at this university. That means that I'll guaranteed be somewhere else in the country (no uni's with my specific program are within 6 hours) and my SO would be stuck at this university, making the relationship definitely long-distance. My best friend suggests that I take it day-by-day, but that would likely lead to me in a relationship someone that would be forced to end (assuming they're either going into graduate school or years behind me, which seems to be likely) because of my moving due to grad school, and their being forced to stay here to finish their bachelors. Any advice besides "stop overthinking"? My solution would be to wait until I attend grad school, where I think a more flexible population of possible partners would be, as nobody is stuck with finishing their bachelors. Link to comment
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