unattached Posted September 25, 2019 Share Posted September 25, 2019 We broke up originally a month ago, but we stayed together, a sort of we are together but we aren’t labeling it. We broke up because we were arguing a lot. In my opinion, it all could have been avoided but we didn’t communicate well and didn’t have the tolerance. If I’m to be honest with myself, I don’t think she wanted a boyfriend starting school. I think that because arguments pushed forward and little things became huge things and little tolerance for small personal issues. Anywho, things just went downhill. Fighting all the time and her idea for fixing it was space. She kept on asking for space which I gave her only coming back in her life when she asked me too. I think all the space caused most of the problems. But anyway, last week we got into a huge argument where a lot of things were said after she told me she needs time, we shouldn’t talk like that anymore right now. I said ok, bye then and things escalated until I told her, I don’t like the way she’s been treating me lately , constantly mean, pushing me away, making everyone else a priority and putting me on the back burner. Using her job as an excuse not to spend time with me. Yet, still have time to hang out with her other friends. All the cancelled plans. Maybe I’m being sensitive but this girl didn’t even do anything for my birthday. (She was sick the actual day, so I had to visit her or I wasn’t going to be able to see her) but didn’t even mention it after the day. Meanwhile, the moment my day was over she was planning her birthday a month and a half later. She wants this and etc and etc. I didn’t mind it but I thought it was a little messed up. I’m making plans for you and you could t do the same for me. I was fed up. Anyway she became defensive (like always) and I just ended the conversation. Wishing her the best and saying goodbye I wanna text her and check up on her. But I don’t feel like I should. I miss her. What should I do?? P.s. I know she’s not feeling well right now because of some stuff that happen recently. I wanna tell her that I’m here, but part of me is saying don’t. She created the distance between you too. She’s probably happier now with whoever she’s spending her time with. What should I do we were together 9 months and truthfully her behavior was so sweet and kind until maybe 2 months ago, that’s when things changed. Do I reach out? Link to comment
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