Cheating

[Mjdino]

Yeah I’ve been getting proper prenatal care from th get go

[melancholy123]

I'm not saying she shouldn't get to the bottom of this but because all of this can be explained for reasons other than cheating I think she can't jump to conclusions, especially while she's hormonal & not thinking straight. Paranoia is not a reason to give up on a relationship. A UTI is far more probable then an affair.

 

If the guy really didnt do anything wrong, and there's a good reason for blood in his underwear, he should tell the pregnant girlfriend what happened! The silence is deafening.

[boltnrun]

Plus, I was not delusional or "not thinking straight" while I was pregnant. Not sure why that belief is being perpetuated, that pregnant women are "hormonal" and therefore irrational.

[quark]

For all you know he could be raping women

 

 

This was unfortunately my first thought when you said blood in the underwear. You deserve better explanation for that. What friend was he out with? I know it's not bulletproof but can they confirm?

[MissCanuck]

The blood is very suspect.

 

it didn't somehow magically migrate from a boxer in the ring into his underwear, so please discount that ridiculous theory. It is also likely not a UTI.

 

Given what you have said about the lack of a sex life between you two now, and his odd explanation for the blood being there - my strong suspicion is that yes, he had sex with someone else while he was gone.

[smackie9]

If it was inside his underwear like where his butt hole would be located, it's possible he strained too hard taking a crap or has the beginnings of a hemorrhoid. And that is something no guy is going to admit to his GF or wife.

AND there are some guys who are not turned on having sex with a pregnant woman, of is worried about hurting the baby, even tho that's silly but some honestly do think that....he's probable not comfortable with it because a baby is in there!

[Camber 2019]

If the guy really didnt do anything wrong, and there's a good reason for blood in his underwear, he should tell the pregnant girlfriend what happened! The silence is deafening.

 

He probably "Spanked the Carrot" too hard, without lubrication, and rubbed himself raw...

[mustlovedogs]

He probably "Spanked the Carrot" too hard, without lubrication, and rubbed himself raw...

 

Have you ever drawn blood from going too hard??

[Rose Mosse]

I don't feel good about this. I'm sorry. Even if his friend was having trouble with a break up, he shouldn't be leaving his pregnant girlfriend or spouse and disappearing until 3 am in the morning. Let's consider if you were not pregnant. I still don't think it warrants that late of a visit. Both of you don't have established patterns or routines in your relationship which leads me to wonder about communications and expectations. Maybe neither of you are very clear with each other from the start. This is a no no in all relationships.

 

I'm not going to address the underwear situation because it seems like a merry go round and we're all taking turns at guessing like it's an amusement park game. It's becoming a bit funny and this probably isn't a very funny situation for you.

 

I'd address it at the first level where his behaviours don't seem appropriate. It doesn't go beyond that to look suspicious. You're hurting yourself more in the process. Acknowledge the things you've seen but don't fall into a well speculating. If he doesn't want to admit it your next responsibility is to the baby (after yourself). Go in for a check up and speak to a doctor about your concerns. You should be tested for STDs. I'd strongly suggest you re-evaluate the relationship or at least protect yourself and the baby.

[Camber 2019]

Have you ever drawn blood from going too hard??

 

LMAO - too funny to answer!

[AviationNut]

He tells me his penis is “dry” because of how much he’s working and having to shower. He doesn’t complain about pain.

 

This isn't a thing. It takes a LOT to make the penis chafe to the point of bleeding. A LOT. To the point it would be very very obvious to you.

[Camber 2019]

This isn't a thing. It takes a LOT to make the penis chafe to the point of bleeding. A LOT. To the point it would be very very obvious to you.

 

Especially if it is not hard... I agree, normal daily activity does not cause this!

[Camber 2019]

Yup... I think we can all agree that the "injury" was caused by excessive rubbing of his erect penis. Now, we need to determine how this happened!