Jimraynorp Posted September 11, 2019 Share Posted September 11, 2019 Hey guys, thought that I would share some insight on my own experiences dealing with breakup, as I have been down the road (still going, but not so tough anymore), and because it has been a great help using this forum. Long story short I was together with my girlfriend for almost two years. She was the love of my life, and I took the breakup seriously bad. I tried to win her back, but we never managed to get back together. It's now two months since we unoficcialy broke up for good, and I have pretty much blocked her on all social media - there has been a couple of times where we contacted each other due to some stuff, because we lived together. Nothing besides that. It has been hard, especially because we have mutual interests and friends. I have pretty much ignored her attempts at making contact, when we have been together in the groups. It seems extreme, I know, but I can't make friends with her and move on. It is all or nothing. This, I know, she was very unhappy about. I am starting to move on. Exercising, feeling alot better about myself and even starting to talk with girls. As of today I learnt from my best friend, who is in contact with one of my ex's friends that she wasn't doing too great, especially because I was trying to move on from her. She was doubting her decision about the breakup and even considering to get back with me - her words were "she would have to settle with me". Learning this actually makes me happy - evil as it may seem. Before this I would be willing to discuss the possibilty of us getting back together, if she was the one to initiate it, regret her dicision and fight for me. Now I am not so sure. I don't want to be somebody's 2nd choice, who they can just get back to as a backup. No **** way! So a little message to all of you in the same spot. I personally am a strong believer in people changing and getting back together. Just be careful. Don't ever be somebody's backup, as it will never work. Settle with someone, who would love you with all their heart - even when life is toughest. I am still in the middle of a healing process, but there is definitely light down the tunnel. I had my toughest period in life, when this girl broke up with me, but through exercise, being busy, seing people and trying to absolutely not think about her, I am doing much much better. Take care people Link to comment
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