MollyHendo91 Posted August 28, 2019 Share Posted August 28, 2019 I split up with one of my ex-boyfriends 7 years ago. We had something special and I struggled to get over it for a couple of years. He’s tried to speak to me a handful of times over the last 7 years on social media. I’ve been fairly blunt with him giving one word answers. I’m very stubborn and although I still had feelings for him I always wanted to protect myself and didn’t want to get hurt again. Anyway, my ex recently spoke to me in April and this time we began chatting. I was able to put my stubbornness aside on this occasion although I still had a barrier up. He had a girlfriend at the time so I refused to flirt back with him as this is not something I agree with. He asked if I would ever get back with him. I said I would have to see how it went first. He told me he was splitting up with his girlfriend as it hadn’t been working for months. Within a week, he was single and he began chatting. He was with that girlfriend for 4 years and they had a house together. He later told me he broke up with her for me. He told me that he’s been constantly thinking about me for the last 7 years and he knew that I was the one. He told me he’s had dreams about me while being with other girls and that he’s never got on with someone as well as me. He basically poured his heart out to me and made me feel so special. Anyway, I started seeing him. We went out on dates, had weekends away and he slept over at my place on numerous occasions. We were intimate with each other. Although he had split up with his ex, he still had things in place which were ongoing. For example, the house was still in the air, she was driving his car about and he had stuff stored in her garage at the house. This all went on for four months. He paid all the bills for four months while living at his parents and he let her keep his car for 4 months until the mortgage was sorted and she could get a new one. I told him that this was affecting us and that I was going to back off until the whole thing was sorted with his ex. I didn’t want to be serious and start a full on relationship until everything was sorted so we could move forward together and do things the proper way. Anyway, in the meantime, he went to work away. I soon found out that he had created a tinder account and had been chatting to others. I also found out that he went on a date with at least one woman. They went out for food and kissed at the end of the night. They had also arranged a second date for the following week. Since I have found out, my ex is adamant that it was a mistake and he only started going on dates because he was sad I cooled things off until things were sorted with his ex. It annoyed me how he was not willing to wait despite saying I mean everything to him. He is still adamant that I am everything he has ever wanted and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Should I give him a second chance or am I being a mug? Link to comment
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