shelleykate Posted August 22, 2019 Share Posted August 22, 2019 Hello, this is my first post here and I am looking for some advice on how to deal with being an "outcast" in my own home town. I have tried to be an active member in the community and own a successful small busines... that takes a lot out of me and my family. We work at it constantly, and we are big enough to be confident and have a decent life (we are not flashy nor can we afford to be) and we do our part in giving back to local schools and charities. IMO, we are good people with a good reputation in both personal and business. We are not wealthy but do have a nice home and we are able to take a nice vacation each year. I feel that we are very down to earth and mind our own business. Due to our work schedule, we do not have a lot of time for close friends but do enjoy going out to dinner with others when we can. I have noticed, however, that many of my former friends and even my own extended family choose not to do business with us and all have become distant over the last year. It is hurtful and I do not understand why. I have not had the guts to ask but I think it may have something to do with that we appear to have grown and become more successful. What other do not see is that we work 7 days a week and lose sleep and family time making it all work :( I think people wanted us to fall on our face. We (I say "we" as I work with my husband) are members of local small businesses associations that often entail dinners. There many other small business owners that are around our same age as (35-45) and we all have either been self start up or taken over the family business. I have noticed that we are being excluded from functions and finding out about it after the fact thanks to the Facebook Post. It is seriously like we are intentionally left out and/or "included" last minute out of obligation or as an after thought. Just this evening, I found out about a local charity event that other businesses are sponsoring and we knew nothing of it. Many of my other business "friends" will be there and I just feel so bad as I would have loved to have participated and helped out. Last weekend, many of them were together for a big dinner...and we were left out. I have asked my husband and he just tells me to let it go, he thinks it is funny. There should be no jealousy as they all seem to be doing well and are happy. I have tried to organize my own events but cannot get the participation or support and have been ridiculed that it is a "bad idea". I am just upset and confused why adults...all of us with this fragile thing called self employment would do another business this way..especially since we all have had ties our whole lives growing up in the same place. At first, when we opened our second location, this same ground was all about it. They would come in and chat and feel us out and then I just feel dropped. I seriously feel like I am 15 being left out at the lunch table with no where to sit and not a friend to talk to. I have always supported them and now I just feel awful and worry that they may be bad-mouthing us and I do not know why. What should I do? Link to comment
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