Millie92 Posted August 6, 2019 Share Posted August 6, 2019 I've been on and off with my partner for 9 years and we have a 2 year old together. It's always been a very difficult relationship. He has a very terrible habit that basically rules his life and comes above everything else. When we had our son, i suppose i changed a lot, I grew up and got my prioritys straight, he didn't. This caused a massive amount of issues. He basically still lives the life we had when we were teenagers, he doesn't pay a penny towards the bills etc, never once got up with his son in the night or taken him for an hour so i can rest, he spends most of his time not at home, mainly out with friends but if i even want to go out for the day with a family member or friend all hell breaks loose. I'm lucky if he does a full weeks work and hes always in between jobs and never in proper employment. He expects his tea ready when he gets home, me to gt him up for work, his snapping done for him, his clothes ironed and folded on the side when he gets up in the morning, his coffee ready, i could go on but you get the point... If these things aren't done or I dont put the the right top or forget to put his socks there, or his tea isn't what he wants etc he has what I can only call a tantrum in which he will call me everything under the sun such as, useless, worthless, a bad mother, a waste of space... He will physically smash my flat up, wardrobes, doors, pictures anything in his path. He will get in my face, throw things at me etc. I've tried to leave multiple times since my son was born, I've even moved house to get away but he found where i was and gets in my head when im vunerable, he promises me the world then as soon as hes back through the door he's back doing it all again. He will be fine for as long as 6 months as long as I work my arse off to keep him happy then one morning he will wake up and i know its coming, it can be the smallest thing that sets him off then I'm in hell for months. I've finally hit breaking point this week and today while he was at work I took his stuff to his mums and made sure he was dropped off there from work. I'm stuck in my own head because as much as I dont want to be with him, I still love him, why? I dont know... I feel so guilty for walking away and the messages from him I'm getting every 5 minutes and endless phone calls really dont help, one minute hes saying hes sorry and loves me, the next hes slating me and saying hes done nothing and it me. I just want it all to stop, I just want a quiet normal life for my little boy. I wish he would just understand that this is not normal and the things he does aren't ok, but he seems to think they are. I've waited 9 years for him to change, surely things should of got better😭😭 I don't know what the point of this post is other than to rant and get some reassurance that I'm doing the right thing😔 Link to comment
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