E98 Posted August 2, 2019 Share Posted August 2, 2019 Sorry for the long post I (20M) talked and flirted with a girl (19M) at work all night the other night. We both started conversations with each other, joked around and told stories about rude and stupid customers (were both cashiers at a grocery store), both asked eachother questions to get to know one another, etc. It felt like talking to a friend id known for a long time, even though that night was the first time we’d actually had real conversations with eachother. Both of us put in an equal amount of effort to talk to eachother. She was working until midnight and when I clocked out at 11, I told her we should hang out sometime and asked for her Snapchat to which she didn’t even hesitate to say yes. So we added eachother and when I stopped to get gas on the way home, I posted something on my story and within minutes she sent me a message replying with it. That lead to a small conversation where I flirted a little and eventually told her I was beat and I’d talk to her the next day (yesterday). I messaged her around 1pm the next day and it’s almost like she had a totally different personality over text. She would send short answers (not one word lines that would end a conversation, but nothing like how she was keeping a conversation going the previous night). Through text, I felt like I was the one putting in the most effort to keep something going while still managing to mirror her response times and length of texts. I just assumed she was busy since she’d posted on her story that she was out with her grandparents or something and I replied to one part of her story and made some connection to it that I kind of had to make up and she responded basically that the same thing happened to her (that part doesn’t really matter). Eventually that lead to me saying we should hang out this weekend and share our stories and I even added a little “[emoji6]” at the end. She responded with 2 messages, something along the lines of 1: “oohhhh sure” and 2: “tbh you’re adorable and I was super flattered when you asked for my snap. We should definitely hang out”. We exchanged a few messages and on 2 separate occasions I had to ask or suggest a day. Again, chalked that up to her being busy and not being able to sit and talk for long. There were a some messages after that that may or may not matter, but those aren’t really what I’m *most likely* other thinking. The thing that’s bothering me is how she acted over text. In person she was EXTREMELY easy to talk to. Probably the girl I’ve had the least bit of trouble or anxiety about approaching and asking out, but through text it’s like she had a different personality. Again, chalked it up to her being busy but my head seems to enjoy stressing about stuff that most likely isn’t an issue, so here I am. Essentially, am I missing something here? I assume that she’s interested considering she was the first one to even mention a compliment, instead of just saying “yeah” or whatever. She said she’d be visiting her mom out of town this weekend but wasn’t sure about leaving tonight (Friday) or on Saturday, but would let me know. Also, let me just get this out of the way. I’m fully aware that her life and her plans don’t revolve around me (lol). Just in case anyone was thinking that’s the idea I had. Just stressing is all. Essentially, 1. Am I reading too much into her attitude through text? I feel like I know I am but my brain keeps bugging me about it, so I thought I’d post here and just get some other opinions. And 2. Pretty certain she’s working at the time of me writing this so I obviously know she’s not gonna text me during her shift, but what do I do if she doesn’t message me afterwards to let me know her plans? I thought briefly about messaging her before she went into work, but realized that it’s best to wait for her to take action and let me know her plans since that’s how we ended the last conversation (also I have issues with always being the first to message someone after leaving a conversation that puts the responsibility on them due to past family issues that don’t matter lol). Any advice or opinions are welcomed and appreciated. Thank you! Link to comment
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