wattsup Posted July 27, 2019 Share Posted July 27, 2019 I don't know how to handle this situation and it's slowly killing us. I have a friend which i know for a very long time and with whom i spend a lot of time. At least i did until i found this perfect girl. Ever since i`m in a relationship with her the only thing we argued about more seriously was about the fact that i spend a lot of time with this friend of mine. So at the time i got together with my girlfriend, my friend was away for a few years. He came back on vacation for a week or two and decided that we need to catch up. I told my girlfriend that i was gonna go hang out with him and she said ok. This went on for the whole week. During this time i did not ignore her or anything else of that kind. After he went back she told me that i spend too much time with him and she did not understand why. I told her we were bestfriends. Fast forward a few more months and my best friend returns home and i start doing the same thing, i hang out a lot with him and she starts getting frustrated and tells me that she needs a break from us. I apologized and said i'll tone it down after which she told me that she does not like him at all. Since then i start hanging out less and less with my friend. But still this was not enough. She went through my phone and gotten straight to my messages with him. Now mind you, me and my bestfriend constantly mock each other about all sorts of things. When she saw that she gotten very angry. Ever since then whenever she hears about him she gets very angry. At this point i realize that i made the mistake of not introducing my friend to my girlfriend. I arrange a get together with them and after that she still tells me that she does not like him. Ever since i tried the first time to get them to know each other she would get very upset about this subject and would not want to talk about it. I tried talking to her about this in order to somehow make this not upset her. I tried several times arranging another get together but she would not want to do it, telling me repeatedly that she does not want to see or talk to him. Basically she told me she hates him. I really want for them to get along. I really don't know what to do in order to fix this. I must admit that not introducing them at the very beginning is my fault. How can i approach this so that i can make this disappear or at least make this a bit easier on her? I need help. Thank you. Link to comment
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