Nebraskagirl14 Posted July 4, 2019 Share Posted July 4, 2019 I rarely post here but when I’m feeling like I really need a little peanut gallery support, the ENA family is great for that!! I wrote about a situation months ago where I started taking a class, I really was drawn to the instructor. I wanted to get to know her. I was attracted to her but totally had/have boundaries around that. I am gay. She is, well, hell, I don’t know but she is married to a man but separated. I didn’t make any assumptions. I have never hit on her (in the typical overt way) or been weird about things, but she knows I really enjoy her and our friendship. She has told me the same. The situation really had me in knots because I cared (CARE - but this was back then) about it a lot. I tried to be easy about and that was good and positive. Fast forward to today. We have become really sweet friends. Like, we have a very delightful an unexpected connection that I absolutely love. Not the typical friendship - for either of us. She is as sweet to me as I am to her. It’s definitely mutual. I have no idea where it will go, perhaps it will stay at a friendship. I feel that there is something more between us but I am letting her take the lead of everything. I absolutely adore her, truth be told. We have exchanged very sweet sentimental gifts and cards. Although she is separated, she definitely loves her husband and they are best friends. I think this is lovely. They just left today for a pretty lengthy vacation. I am quite sad about her leaving of course. We said our sweet goodbyes and I know we’ll keep in touch while she is away. But here is where I am now. I have always been at that place with her of, do I text her or do I not text her? How much is too much? I am definitely more of the initiator of the two of us and so I have always been very careful to try to not be too THERE. I want her to have fun on her vacation. I want her to text me when she wants. On the other hand, I don’t want her to forget about me or think I’m not thinking of her. On the OTHER hand, if I text her all sweetly when she is on vacation, maybe that is too much... Jesus, I have no idea. I’m quite sweet on her while also wanting to respect her process/relationship, whatever that is... Link to comment
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