margotann3 Posted June 21, 2019 Share Posted June 21, 2019 I apologize if this is a duplicate- I am new to this website and not sure if my first post went through. My boyfriend of almost 4 years said he hasn't been feeling the same and he's not sure why. I have noticed him being emotionally distant and "there physically but not there mentally" for a few months. Our intimacy levels declined drastically. 2 days ago, he asked for some time to reevaluate his feelings, see where he stands, and do some soul-searching. I asked if this has to do with other women and he said no. I'm taking that as truth because he has never been the play-boy type in the 15 years I've known him. I told him to take all the time he needs, but I am feeling lost and not sure how to proceed through this time-out. I am kind of invoking the "No-Contact" rule because I feel that if he needs time, then he should be the one to come back so we can speak. He did not explicitly break-up with me. We have been friends for 15 years, and he helped me through a divorce in 2014 ( I was married young, at 18 and divorced with 1 child at 23) and I helped him through the loss of a sibling. Our friendship naturally progressed to a romantic situation about a year after my divorce. We have been taking it slow and I am perfectly happy to do so. I'm worried he will conclude that he is not ready for a relationship at all (I am his first real girlfriend.) I think we may be at different stages of life. I want to let him figure his head out, whatever the outcome. I just don't know what to do while we are in this limbo he has placed us in.. (In case you're curious, I am 28 and he is 26) Link to comment
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