Elpida90 Posted June 20, 2019 Share Posted June 20, 2019 Hi everyone, Just looking to obtain another perspective on my situation. I am a 28 yo female living with my 32 yo boyfriend. We have been together for 2 years and have lived together for the last 6 months (I moved into a place he was renting). I earned quite a bit more than him, so we split the bills 70/30 with me paying the lion's share. My boyfriend was struggling financially when we met. He never expected anything but I was always happy to pick up the bill if we went for dinner or drinks to try and help him somehow. Since then he is much better and now has a fair amount of money saved. I should mention that he does a traditional office job whereas I own my own small business. In January, I decided to change course of operation which meant investing some of my savings into my business. Since January I have been both living from my savings and investing in my business. It paid off as I signed some really big clients in April. The problem however is that I now work on 65 days net payment which means I dont get paid until 65 days after doing the work. The last few months of my paying 70% of the bills, investing in the business, etc, all from my savings means that I have not enough money to tide me over until I get my first big payments in August and then September. I told my boyfriend that the next two months would be a struggle and he was very rude about it after coming to expect me to pay most of the bills. He said we could split the rent 50/50 but honestly I am on the brink of running out of any money whatsoever. If I pay half of the June and July rents and bills, and do grocery shopping, that's all I can afford. Every time I go to the supermarket I am adding up dollars and cents because these next two months will be a struggle. It's my birthday next month and I won't be able to afford to do anything. I also can't afford to have a checkup at the dentist. Meanwhile my boyfriend is in a good place financially. He left an atm receipt lying on the table and I can see that he has stacked up a lot of savings over the last few months. Despite hearing me say I am struggling, he openly gambles on betting apps right in front of me and says "oh well that's only $50" if he loses. I feel really hurt that despite the fact that I helped him a lot in the past and paid his way, he will not help me now. Ironically after September I will be making a lot and having a lot of disposable income but this is a difficult blip. I asked if he could cover more of the rent or let me pay him back later for these two months and he got angry and told me he is not responsible for paying for two people. He did our first big grocery shop of the month and after me telling him I am struggling, he kept complaining every time I ate something saying he hoped I was going to bother to do some of the food shopping and not just eat all his things. Honestly this makes me so angry as I historically did all of the food shopping. He will make comments about how I should have been better with my money or snidey remarks on how if you want something you pay for it not expect it for free. He makes me feel like I am some freeloader ☹ I just wish I had a supportive boyfriend who would say "look ive got rent these two months" and just let me contribute to smaller bills or something, or let me give it him in September. Before I moved in he was living here alone anyway! I am seriously considering leaving and going to stay with my parents. It's affecting my ability to concentrate on my work now and honestly I will have to take out a small loan or get a credit card to get me from now to August if i stay in his place while he sits with tens of thousands in his account. Link to comment
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