katrina1980 Posted June 20, 2019 Share Posted June 20, 2019 Hey guys, I am a bit troubled by something I just read and wanted to get your thoughts about it. I just finished reading and responding to the thread from a woman who just discovered her boyfriend of three years was engaging in sexual messaging and possible sexual activity with other women during their entire three year relationship and prior. Prior to discovering this (she didn't snoop, apparently a woman he had been sexting with messaged her), she had no clue and thought everything was fine! Anyway, not sure why but I am very troubled by this, and it's making me wonder about my own boyfriend now! I have no reason to believe he's doing anything even remotely related to this and trust him with all my heart, but so did the women posting! And then there are all these true story documentaries I watch and read about, discussing women who also trusted their boyfriends/husbands and thought everything was fine, but then discovered their bf's were living some sort of double life, all related to having relations with other women. "Dirty John" was a true story I watched not too long ago about this very thing. Gawd, that was super troubling! Anyway, my questions are (1) what to do with these troubling thoughts, and (2) is anyone else ever bothered by what they read on message forums and other social media, and if so, does it carry over into your current relationship, causing you to doubt? I also question it a little bit, because I was so in love with my ex, I lived in sort of a never-never land for many years, believing we were madly in love and everything was perfect (we were even planning our wedding), only to discover he was a serious drug addict during most, if not all, of our relationship. I tend to be a very anxious person in general, I do manage it well by doing Yoga, running, eating right, etc but can't seem to shake these thoughts sometimes. Any advice about this would be very much appreciated! Link to comment
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