yatsue Posted June 20, 2019 Share Posted June 20, 2019 For some background, I've been dating my bf since February. After he asked me to be his gf, we did not necessarily establish exclusivity. We were both open to non-monogamy, but I never stated that. I was still undecided on my end, but it wasn't much of a concern for me at the time. He never told me he was sleeping with other people when I became his gf. One of them was a woman who is positive for a couple of STDs. Upon this knowledge, I accepted the facts and had both of us get initial testing. This wasn't too big of a deal to me at first. There wasn't an agreement, so I can't say it was cheating. Otherwise, this would be different. The issue is he unfortunately lied to me about when he slept with that woman, which was a couple of weeks before telling me the news. He didn't come out with this information on his own, I had to pry when what he was telling me wasn't adding up. At first, he said it was before we were official, but that was not true and it was actually afterwards. This information concerning the timeline was important to tell my physician, who asked me these questions. One STD can lead to very serious health concerns. The jist was, he lied because he said I make him nervous? He wasn't sure. He said he had a few drunken mess ups. While I didn't expect exclusivity, I expected honesty as my current bf. Instead he lied about the timeframes and was avoidant with my relevant questions concerning the situation. I don't know how to feel, only that I'm uneasy now about the lie and I want it to go away. How would y'all react to this situation? How do I proceed? How do I make this uneasiness go away? Link to comment
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