Cledi Posted June 19, 2019 Share Posted June 19, 2019 Hello, I met a girl online and we spoke for a couple weeks, not too much but we phoned for 4 hours a time a few times and then she came over. She came over and we had a really nice time, we did sexual things together and the day after she went home (I was going to go with her however we decided it’d be best if we waited until the weekend or the next week; which is now this week) and I took her to the train station and she left without any issues and I was really excited to see her again. I messaged her saying I hope she had a nice time and that I can’t wait for us to see each other again and she assured me she had a wonderful time and that was it. All of a sudden she started going cold and not messaging, she didn’t message for the rest of the night except saying “I’m dealing with stuff right now, just need time” and I basically had to beg her (as I thought it was something about us) to message me. She then said that it’s nothing to do with me however she just wants time and space and that she never meant to hurt me (also said I’m already attached and we’re not even official, which I am but I can’t help that) I then messaged her mum, asked for her advice and she just said to make sure she’s knows I support her and she told me what had been going on (she told me about her ex and how he treated her which was really, really bad) and my ‘girlfriend’ had already told me that her child is in care and she’s trying to get him back. She messaged me about speaking to her mum and told me I shouldn’t have got her involved so I just replied saying I was sorry and that I just wanted her advice and that I’ll message her in a couple days. A day or so go by and I try my luck, asking whether she’s okay and I managed to get a reply saying that she’s not too great and she’ll message me the next day. I say that’s fine and the next day comes; she didn’t message so I decided to message her asking if she felt like speaking later on and she said it depends how she felt so I said I’ll message her later on. Later on comes and I message her, she said she didn’t feel like speaking on the phone but that we could stick to messaging. I ask her a few questions like if she’s ready for us to see each other again and that I really want to be there for her and make her feel better but she blanks me. I then say I’ll message her the next day (today) and I did saying I hope she feels alright (once again blanked) and then I asked if she’d be down for a phone call at 10pm (this was at about 9:20pm) and once again, blanked however I said please let me know if you don’t want me to call because if not I won’t call. She then responded saying she feels a bit ty so she probably won’t answer. I said I’ll try at 10 anyway so then I can cheer her up if she picks up. I ring, no answer so I messaged her saying I’ll message tomorrow and a few other things, blanked again. Sorry for that but I’m just so conflicted and hurt, this is the first time I’ve felt like this about someone and I’m awful and giving people time and space as I just get so bored without speaking to her and I feel useless that she won’t speak to me. I’d just like some advice really, I do hope she starts to feel better soon but I just needed to get it off of my chest. Link to comment
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