Claracluck25 Posted June 12, 2019 Share Posted June 12, 2019 Hi I'm writing this as very confused and tearful. Wondering whether I'm reading into things. I met someone on dating site a month ago. He's in Ireland, I'm in England. He was due to go on holiday for a week about an hour and a half from where I love so pretty early on, agreed to meet up. Contact regular. Although he's not the best at texting and we chatted 3 x on phone. Anyway the date lasted 8 hours . He is quite shy , that came across online and on person, but funny, witty and holdings hands, looking into eachothers eyes etc. We didn't bombard eachother with questions, just enjoyed eachother s company. We talked of seeing how things pan out over coming months and if u meet someone else, don't feel bad.. in that time. I was fine, no labels yet, just getting to know eachother as friends. Then the bombshell a few days later: "I've decided that there won't be any romance between us as it would be unfair on both of us... But definitely great friends. I agreed distance would be a problem but could go either way. And we would be good friends He's a lovely fella. In reflection, maybe I should have vocalised my surprise at such a quick decision. And he was the one who contacted me, knowing where I lived. I replied saying that distance would be a problem (but I'm thinking, on reflection, even if I lived in Ireland, it could be several hours drive from him. Here in Liverpool to Dublin/Cavan it's not exactly the other side of the World) and we would be great friends. So was it a polite brush off? I asked if he'd like to meet up before he went home. Only stayed a week. And next day was penultimate day ..So knew he probably couldn't. He was busy seeing family friend and also he may not be able to see me in Galway next month but I said was going to other places too and he said to let him know details. Said we would definitely meet up when he's in England. There was definitely attraction there. Not being big headed but surprised at how attractive I was. Cpuld tell .Complimented me on my figure etc. He is shy and did bring him out of himself and he made me feel calm. Don't want to appear pushy etc but glad I offered to meet before I went back. Is surprising though he decided. No discussion about it. So many questions I may not get answers to. Not sure what to do next. To say my piece and or tell him my travel plans or just wave goodbye. Will he ever change his mind?But then im thinking he's bailing now before he's had a real chance to get to know me, should I even care? Or is it fear? Or did he think I didn't like him in that way? The way he worded it, indicates to me there are acknowledged feelings on Both sides ... Any helpful insights welcome. Link to comment
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