ElPelo Posted June 11, 2019 Share Posted June 11, 2019 Hi, as a quite inexperienced fella (and also someone who's back on the dating scene recently) i'd like to have some advice from you guys : Little Background : 23yo guy, only had 1 relationship of a year and a half, that ended 4 months ago, was hard for me back then but I'm in a really better place now, and I do feel my grief is over since a few weeks. I've never truly dated, also I feel i'm not really good at it (with my ex, I wasn't the one to initiate, properly speaking) So I've been talking to that new girl for a bit more than a month now (mostly by texting). I first met her a bit less than 2 years ago, back then I was with my ex and she was with hers, both happy in our relationships, so there wasn't anything flirty between us (even if I'm the kind of guy who never EVER sees when a girl gets flirty with me). Anyways, we hadn't contacted each other since last July, and six weeks ago I got in touch with her as I saw pictures of her in an Amusement Park I love, and so we started texting on a regular basis. I've started to like her (I was attracted by her looks at first, and turned out I really liked her personnality too). Now one thing I've learned from my past relationship is that I was too clingy, and one of my big flaws is that i'm really too much on my phone. I usually respond immediately when friends text me, unless i'm practicing a sport. Of course I didn't want to do that with this girl, so I always took my time to answer her texts, and she did pretty the same thing, even though eventually we always kept talking to each other. Anyways, as I started to like her, I invited her to the movie theatre on Thursday 2 weeks ago, which she answered in a really positive way (probably overanalyzing here, but when I asked if she would like to come and see the film with me, she was like "Yeah sure i would really like to ! ^^" when her texts were usually less cheerfull). So we got to watch the film together, I really enjoyed it and she also told me she did. After the film, we stayed together in her car untill like 2 AM, talking about everything, watching old photos, that was a really nice time, also I need to precise we didn't go any intimate (I'm really someone who takes things slowly) or didn't even talk about a relationship between us or anything. Anyways we left each other after this night, she told me she really appreciated it, and as she asked me to text her when I was home, I told her I really enjoyed the date (I'm not sure I can call that a date though) too. After that, we kept texting but I felt I was the one "leading" the conversation. Even if she often initiated by sending a photo, or a silly and funny meme, but as it made us start texting, she usually responded some things like "LMFAO that's so true", which made me feel like that was ending the conversation. Still I told her that "as we enjoyed the night out together we should do that again", and She said that "Yeah, we had a really good time". I offered her to go out and eat sushi during the week end, but she told me that she couldn't this week end as she was out of the city to see her Best Friend for 3 days (which is true though, as she posted and sent me some photos). Now next week end, I'm going to see my University friends 5 hours away. Anyways, this is where I stand, should I make more obvious to her that I'm interested ? Should I just backoff as my last proposition was declined ? Or should I ask her once again ? Sorry for the looooong story, with maybe some useless details, but I hope I can find some nice advice here ! Link to comment
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