Sunstealer Posted June 9, 2019 Share Posted June 9, 2019 Hi everyone I got involved with an emotionally unavailable woman. I posted on here about a month ago asking for everyone’s advice on what I should do. I did listen to everything everyone had to say. I broke up with her twice now, but she kept coming back saying she would change but hasn’t. It has been just false promises and breadcrumbs and I’ve finally had enough. Part of me wants to tell her to sort herself out, and part of me wants to just ignore her. What I’d like to ask you all is this. Do I send her the following message, or do I just block her out of my life and go no contact? All I’ve ever been to you is Mr nice guy. Well here’s the part of me that’s going to tell you to wake the up! You go on about how miserable you are, how indifferent you are when things go wrong. How cold faced you are, how depressed you feel. How boring your life is, how you have no friends where you live. You never do anything. You never make any plans. You don’t make any effort to change things. It’s a ing sob story B! You’re in a place, I get it! You’ve dragged me down with you, never talking about anything positive. It’s all doom and gloom. I have tried to help. I’ve offered you time, companionship, friendship, commitment, trust, openness, a relationship, love, intimacy and you’ve rejected it all. And you still keep coming back wanting something from me. What the do you want B?! There is no way in this world anyone can do anything to make you happy, it’s impossible because you don’t want it. You seem content to sit there on your own, wallowing in your own self pity over a bloke who did you wrong. Until you get over all that from your past, deal with all that pain, find yourself again and then learn to love yourself again, you’re lost to anyone including yourself. You haven’t moved on from your previous relationship. It is so ing obvious, and ing sad! Now you may think I’m an arsehole for saying all of this, but I don’t care what you think of me anymore. I’m fed up of wasting my emotional energy on you for nothing. Maybe this is the kick up the arse you need to sort your out. People come into your life for a reason, and I’m here to teach you lessons about yourself. I know that there is an amazing, beautiful woman inside of you, locked away behind abuse, trauma and heartbreak. Struggling to get out and get the love and intimacy she deserves and is crying out for. But I see no emotion in you whatsoever. You are cold. You are completely uninterested in anyone else. You are selfish and self centred. You do not show any feelings to anyone. Wake the up and do something about it! You’ve dragged me down into a bad place. You’ve used me to boost your ego and your very low level of self esteem. It’ll take me time to get over you. That’s my fault for getting involved in the first place with you. I’ve been here before, and fell for it all over again. That’s my problem to work on, and believe me I’m going to work on it! No one is going to rescue you. No knight in shining armour is going to appear and make it all right for you. They’re all going to see you the way I finally have. You’re wasting your time dating as the same pattern will repeat itself. You are broken, ed up, damaged goods. Go and get some therapy as you need it. Yes, I am angry, but not with you. I’m angry with myself for trying to fix you when you don’t even seem to want to fix yourself. Link to comment
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