PuffyParakee Posted June 5, 2019 Share Posted June 5, 2019 Sry. Long read. I say this because my situation is a bit complexed. I'm 34, man is about 6 yrs younger. I matched with a great man on Tinder 6 months ago, we met a few months later after matching. Our first physical introduction was great, he told me how pleasantly surprised he was after seeing me, however, I must admit..I had so much things going on in my life that I just could not lend myself to be completly available to date him at the time. He always maintained his interest in me even initiating many texts to me even if they were sporadic. So, we finally officially went out on a date a few months later, then a second on back in April. That's when I felt the sparks & butterflys in my stomach. I realized I liked him! He still showed a great deal of interest in me & would always say how he wanted some "quiet/alone time" with me & I will agree. Around a few weeks later, he temporarily moved to NY city. He's there until this month but will be back in town soon. I noticed he began acting distant after this, but one late night while I was asleep, he txted me "Wanna come over?" & called me, I returned his call the following day, we spoke briefly with him ending the call saying he'll txt me back because he's at work. So, he txted me asking what day can we get together, I gave him a day, I then texted him the infamous "What do you see me as: a friend or something a little bit more?" I asked him this because he's always been a sporadic texter, but has become worst since moving. I got no response. I waited a week, finally txted him truly concerned:"Hey, Is everything alright?" He responded and answered my question I asked a week ago. Saying he meant to txt me but was out of town & that he's not in the market for a super serious relationship but is open to it & would really like to speak about this in person." He then asked my available days so he can come into town, I told him the day. I then told him that "I'm not looking for a super serious relationship also, however, I'm not looking for a fwb." He responded "That day sounds good, let me know." Followed by a "What's a fwb? (Confused face) lol" I told him"Friends with Benefits" & then...you guessed nothing. That was about a month ago. I never got a response, & was flabbergasted & hurt. I'm still a bit devastated. Mainly because I connected with him on a deeper level, we shared a common bond because we're both caretakers, so I just assumed there was something a bit more between us especially being that we've been talking for 6 months. I'm not tempted to txt him but sometimes, I am. It's been a month. The longest I ever went without speaking to eachother was a month. Do I just leave this alone? I should point out that in the beggining because of familial issues in my life, I would not msg him for weeks on end, & he always remained persistent & would initiate a msg to me. I'm so lonely,do suffer from depression even before this. Prior to him, I have not dated for years by choice for fear of getting hurt,& just when I open up to a man I like, this happens. Link to comment
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