MarissaJ Posted May 31, 2019 Share Posted May 31, 2019 I had been dating a guy I met online about a month; from the beginning I made clear to him that I was only interested in dating men that were serious about getting into a relationship and he told me he was also looking for something serious as he was tired of dating and choosing the "wrong people" like me. We hit it off instantly and it felt right. Our first date was one of the best I've had in a while and we both felt comfortable he seemed very interested in getting to know me and really engaged in conversation also telling me that he saw a "bright future with me" when I mentioned to him that I did not want to become a booty call. We texted and called each other everyday after that. Our second time hanging out was the same thing, but this time things got a little hot and heavy but we did not have sex, finally third date, we meet up at his place before going to watch a movie one thing led to another and we end up having sex, afterwards we go to the movies and once we say goodbye for the night I notice he's acting a bit different. Once all sweet and lovey dovey over text and now just seems disinterested, keeps the conversation going but it feels like I'm talking to a friend than a potential boyfriend. At first I try not to panic, but notice this going on for a couple days; finally I ask to meet up so he can return a pair of sunglasses I had left at his house and we meet up at the train station after work there he tells me that things won't work out between us. Even though I had a gut wrenching feeling that it was the end before he told me I was still shocked, when I ask why he says "more than anything else fundamental things are more important to me, you never thanked me for dinner and the movies to me that looked like I had to do those things for you." I was absolutely floored this person who a couple days ago was this sweet and incredible person was basically calling me ungrateful. I know I had only been dating him for a month, but this felt like a break up, how could this person someone I had been this excited about a future together suddenly end things with me over that?! I don't get it and still don't get it?! My first thought was that he was just using me, but I'm honestly still distraught. Link to comment
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