Rihannon Posted May 29, 2019 Share Posted May 29, 2019 Where I work, I was friendly with a guy who recently quit, and he invited me and some other of his former coworkers to his out-of-town wedding which was about a 4-hour drive away. The wedding was this past weekend. So, I knew several people going, and I was committed to going but my husband couldn't go because he was working on final projects with urgent deadlines. One of my current coworkers was planning to go and to stay in a hotel, but he didn't want to drive, so he was looking for someone to drive with, and split the hotel. I agreed. (Just in case this sounds weird, going with a guy while I'm married, he's gay, I'm a woman, and I've worked with him for years. We're friendly at work but don't hang out much outside of work - maybe we hung out 2-3 times in a group setting). So here's what ended up happening: I drove the whole way there and back. He pitched in for gas. He got the hotel room reserved. When we got there, the hotel was totally disgusting and not clean. Whatever. Went to the wedding. Fun, reception. I had three drinks at the reception and toward the end of the night, I blacked out. I don't know how or why I blacked out. All I remember is waking up the next morning in the hotel bed, fully dressed, and my coworker was sort of laughing at me for getting wasted the night before. But the weird thing is, I don't remember getting drunk. I have never blacked out like that before. What's especially strange is that, when I have gotten very drunk before, I always got sick and/or had a killer hangover. This time, I wasn't very hung over. I felt tired, dehydrated, a bit of a headache but not nauseated or head-pounding/light-sensitive like a usual hangover. I still had to drive home though, because this guy said he didn't feel comfortable driving. Today I am really mad at this coworker because he told everyone at my office about me getting wasted at the wedding and passing out. And then, he also told me about how he had complained about the hotel to their manager and he got refunded half the price of the room. But I still had already paid him my half of the room and he didn't refund me any of the money he got back. I told my husband about it and he thinks I must have simply had too much and he feels sympathetic to me but he also thinks I should have been more responsible. As for his opinion about my coworker, he thinks it was petty of him to tell everyone at work about my over-drinking, but that I shouldn't expect him to give me any of the hotel refund back, since he was the one who complained to the manager and earned the refund. But I think, I could have complained but it wasn't on my credit card so I couldn't rightfully ask for a refund from the hotel. And I did agree to drive, accepting his gas money, so again, it was my decision to agree to all of these bill-splitting terms. Furthermore, my husband said that this coworker had to put up with me being drunk and passed out, and that he got me safely back to the hotel so I may even in fact owe him a favor. What do you all think? Edit/Addition: I should add that, come to think of it, I don't think I ever apologized to this coworker for blacking out, or really thanked him for getting me back to the hotel. Maybe I did, I can't remember what I said when I was asking him what happened, trying to piece things together. If I was that drunk I must have been so out of it, he probably had to walk me to the bed. I was so disoriented and confused by the whole thing the next day, and a little scared and worried, that I wasn't thinking about it from his perspective. So maybe he was mad at me for not apologizing or thanking him, and annoyed over my being such a handful, so maybe that's why he laughed at me with everyone and spread this embarrassing story. Link to comment
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