batso1340 Posted May 27, 2019 Share Posted May 27, 2019 Ok let's see how this goes... I married my wife, knowing she was a dog lover. I personally don't have a drama with dogs as such, my family had dogs while I was growing up but they were always an 'outside toy '. So she had these two dogs. They lived inside. They were seriously irritating. So I tolerated them, as it was a price I was prepared to pay to be with her. After a few years, both dogs eventually died. We were dog free. It was nice. For me, anyway. Eventually (it was always going to happen) she decreed that we were getting another dog, whether I liked it or not. Of course I argued against it, but equally of course it mattered not what logic I presented. Another dog was coming. She involved me in choosing the breed, and naming the dog, hoping it would give me some buy-in. But equally of course that didn't matter either. I still didn't want a dog. Now is like having a toddler in the house, on many levels. Which was precisely what I was worried about. He breaks things, he eats furniture, he chases the cats, he STINKS, he climbs on the couch, he steals food. All round naughty behavour, regardless of our efforts to train him. Lately she's been making comments about the dog being difficult, saying that it was MY fault that she didn't get a poodle like she wanted. Yeah, it was almost definitely a joke (perhaps rooted in some level of dissatisfaction) but I bit back. Normally I wouldn't but we as a family have been coping with multiple heavy issues in recent months and we are both seriously exhausted, both physically and mentally. Anyway, I said something along the lines of my choice was NO dog, but forced to choose I picked one I thought I might possibly hate less than the other ones she had. Yeah I know. Should have kept that as an inside thought. Anyway, I've apologized (as all husbands know is the first step regardless of fault). But I expect she's going to take quite a while to cool down after this one. So what am I asking? Well given that I'm stuck with this dog for another 10-15 years, and I don't want to lose my wife over this, how do I best go about sucking up my resentment and not taking it out on the dog or anyone else? I've tried to 'get involved'. - actually wife insisted I take part in the puppy training course. Didn't help. So don't bother suggesting that. Link to comment
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