Snowzxyz Posted May 20, 2019 Share Posted May 20, 2019 So I'm in an ldr with my bf. We used to live in the same state, but he is currently doing his PhD across the country. Lately we haven't been talking much. He's always been bad at replying to messages and stuff. But this time it's horrible. Initially I felt it's because both of us are too stubborn to break the silence. It kinda started when I had my exams 3 weeks ago. I didnt really reply to his texts as fast as I usually would. But I immediately asked him if he wanted to vc the night of my final paper, but he said he was busy. I mean, nothing wrong with that. But that never changed. I would shoot a text to him, only to get a half-assed response or no response at all. It's kinda hurtful, but I kind left it at that for a bit. He haven't had a genuine conversation for nearly 3 weeks or so. On Thursday, I was upset about something else and texted him again, all upset telling him that I didnt feel like he missed me and didnt feel included in this life. Etc.. so he agreed to Skype on Friday night. Well, it was a no-show. He didn't even reply to my text until Saturday night, only after sending several more his way. He told me that he's feeling real burnout and that my constant worrying isn't doing him any favors. He said he doesn't blame me, but he Hope's that I understand where he's coming from. He says that he sees my messages, but he often times forgets to reply to them. I was extremely dramatic at this point, telling him how much I missed him. But he failed to reciprocate any of that. It's extremely hurtful. He basically ended the conversation saying that he's going to continue his work and that I shouldn't worry about him, he'll text me when he gets some free time. I cried a little after that, but it made me worry for him too. I don't know how much of pressure he's going through, so it's possible that my constant nagging might seem to exacerbate his situation. But I'm feeling so neglected because he isn't satisfying my emotional needs one bit. I know it sounds like I'm giving him a lot of leeway. But that's just because I don't want to further stress him out by arguing with him. But I feel so trapped right now. I don't know what I should do about this. I really wish he could at least understand where I'm coming from. I understand that texting isn't the most reliable method of communication, for that reason I figured it would be a good idea to Skype and figure things out, but even that doesn't seem viable at the moment. TL;DR: boyfriend goes on days without replying. Forgets scheduled Skype calls and texts I sent him. Link to comment
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