Miatorres91 Posted May 19, 2019 Share Posted May 19, 2019 So where it starts I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years very rocky relationship, he’s kept a lot of secrets left me for other people, when he finally wanted to be serious I decided to give it my all (1 year and a half ago) yes I thought I was with him months after we started dating, only because we would always talk hang out go on dates we had a great time in the beginning but to him he feels old to ask someone to be his girlfriend so we were together without him having to ask me to be his girl friend. It was always weird with him it didn’t really bother me because at the time I was also doing me I.e going out with my friends (guys, girls) I thought we were together but if we’d argue or whatever I’d go out and have drinks with friends because I didn’t want him to think he had me in his hands little did he know he did but I was able to contain myself I was used to being alone (he’s now 33 I’m 27 going on 34 & 28 this year). Well then we split in 2017 he didn’t give me a reason he just left I was depressed it had been 4 months since we had broken up when I had social media I had him on there he would always see my posts randomly message me dumb things but he would try to give me excuses as why he wanted to see me I never gave in in those 4 months, I had met someone that treated me like a princess I did not have to worry about a damn thing money issues anything because he did it all for me so I wouldn’t stress he cared about me genuinely but there was also a reason as to why I couldn’t be with him which I will not say on this post, again it was 4 months since my boyfriend and I had broken up and guess who decides to come back? Yes! My boyfriend I gave in because I still loved him & I was willing to give it another try. So then we started to see each other again he would tell me he wanted to try things out but this time for reals try to work things out I was all in, then I came to find out why it was he broke up with me!!!! In the beginning of our relationship (or so when I thought we were together ) he had a booty call I didn’t know about he got her pregnant and was with me she gave birth and that’s when he broke up with me for those 4 months. Whatever I forgave him I came to find out a lot about him he kept from me, extra kids I didn’t know about who his bms were still didn’t change how I felt about him, it was going ok though he was always drinking and not putting his whole efforts into the relationship I was still there faithful as can be, spontaneous in bed; lingerie sec tricks to make it exciting, cook for him, massages before bed when he’d spend the night at my house, I mean I went the whole 9 yards for him to show him I wanted him all of him nothing made me stop loving him when last year (dec 28 2018) I came to find out he was cheating on me with the girl he cheated and had a baby with it tore me apart I felt so weak, betrayed, stupid I had never experienced such pain caused by someone else in my life, then I knew how much it really was I loved him. I ended up hitting him bad on his face I left one eye shut and he also gave me hits trying to defend himself I mean hello you couldn’t imagine the pain I fell I didn’t even know what to do his face showed how much it was he actually hurt me, I left the next morning I called the girl I was cheated on with and told me everything. I decided it was time to move on he didn’t deserve me and i didn’t deserve the pain and betrayal he did after I did all that I could to prove to him I wanted and loved only him. he would text me off his moms phone acting like her asking how I was and to take care that she missed me (which she would never say I thought it was weird but whatever I told her I missed her too) 2 weeks had passed since I found out of the cheating he started texting me to my text app I had downloaded he texted me saying how sorry he was that I didn’t deserve that and that he regretted it fast forward I got back with him. Well we continued to have problems because of her I mean they did have a kid together after all, but he wouldn’t talk to her because I asked him not to and if he would talk to her to let me know to my knowledge he would tell me when she’d call or he would talk to her, if go through his phone. We started working together in his business we started to look for places to move in together it felt as if things were finally getting better he was showing me I can trust him, he started communicating about everything, asking for my opinion on things and take me in consideration. May 10 was mother’s day (for Mexicans as I am Mexican) he took me out to dinner (but never made it because we left) that day was a stressful day as it was the second week I had stayed without a job and I would only work with him 2-3 days out of the week he wouldn’t ask if I needed anything, he would leave me for last most the time, he’d get mad if he would have to leave his employees and they were drinking to go be with me, I’m a very emotional sensitive person btw and all these thoughts just gathered, back to the dinner we never made it to before that I asked to see his phone he hesitated then is when I started to think ‘ok he’s hiding something’ after a couple time of me asking to see his phone he let me see it and hense every time I’d check his phone I’d never check his FaceTimes well this time I did and her number was there a missed FaceTime from her and the reason why I got so mad was because I thought she was blocked this whole time, when I saw that call I started to ask him why why do you keep lying to me crying not knowing what to do well we got in an argument he said he would take us to the PD to make a statement hense stressful day sensitive over thoughtful gf you can only imagine what was going through my mind when I saw her number; when he said PD his truck was running I was in the passenger side I got scared and jumped out the truck got bruised from my face my elbow my knees I called 911 made a report but lied I said he hit me my anger piled when I saw he did not stop to see I was ok after I had just jumped out of a moving truck. Now I feel bad because I made the report so the police thinks he hit me when he didn’t there’s a warrant out for his arrest, I’ve gone to the police station talked to the officer who took the report told her the truth, talked to the watch commander and the station made a letter of my reasons why I want to drop charges and it is just a waiting game with the law enforcement. My thing is I do not feel any good at all because I let my anger get to me the law enforcement is now involved and I don’t know what to do and this is the person my soul loves I’ve always believed we can make it far as a couple we share a lot of the same interests we share memories and the same future goals this person is my soulmate with all this going on I feel depressed only because I can only imagine what he’s going through and has his business the time with his kids his life, I guess my question is idk if this turns out ok if we’ll be ok because obviously we know not to be touching each other in a hurtful way, if I should move on because right now he is being distant I try to ask if he wants us to go our own ways and he doesn’t answer my question, and if anyone has been in the “domestic violence” situation where it’s been something similar or worse and got a good result rather than a bad one I.e make a case and go to trial, please help me I need answers and don’t know where to find them . 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