chah Posted May 12, 2019 Share Posted May 12, 2019 My boyfriend and I have been a couple for a year and a half. We love each other very much and feel like we have a special bond, even though we have had relatively big fights - twice about my boyfriend being jealous, but he works on his jealousy. We get a long very well usually, but we have trouble talking about anything besides day-to-day-life and our relationship problems. We do have relatively similar wishes for the future concerning family and so on, but I can't be sure about that yet since we are pretty young still. We love cuddling each other, but we haven't really kissed in a year or were intimate beyond that. Still our relationship feels very intimate, but my boyfriend misses this kind of initmacy a lot, I miss kissing, but i can't enjoy it anymore and don't know why. I have felt slightly pressured before, but my boyfriend wouldn't want to break up me for that sole reason. I wonder if we sholud break-up so that my boyfriend would find someone who finds him attractive (so do I theoretically) and fulfills all his needs - also those that I don't feel I can fulfill - but he says that he only wants me but also can't see himself being happy if we are to never kiss or be further intimate again. I don't know if it's just a phase, because I did enjoy it in the beginning and now I theoretically do miss it, but I don't want to kiss him anymore. We do baby-talk quite a lot, which makes us both feel loved, but I feel like I can't properly see him as a 'normal' boyfriend anymore because he is more of a cute soulmate who I love to kiss on the cheeks and so on, but I don't want to kiss him on the mouth anymore. Losing him is a great fear of mine and I know that I would be devasteted and he feels similar, but I am afraid of him staying with me unhappily because he is hoping for something that I won't give him and I want him to be as happy as he can be. Do you have any tips on me not wanting that kind of intimacy with him currently or on what to do in general? My boyfriend and I have agreed on asking on the internet for advice as inspiration, we won't just do what we are advised here, but think about it carefully. Thank you! Link to comment
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