alw0992 Posted May 10, 2019 Share Posted May 10, 2019 My wife and I have been married for three years. We have two children (6 y/o and 2 y/o). During these three years we've dealt with a lot but the biggest issues we've encountered are: 1) Constant need to interact with Exs and 2) infidelity. We've dealt with her: 1) sexting her friends and exs, 2) establishing inappropriate emotional relationships with exs and friends (meaning regretting breaking up and what would life be if they stayed together), 3) dating other people. This past April she lied about meeting up with an ex (one of whom she cheated on me with) and we fought. From there she took it upon herself to establish a relationship with a family friend and it went south from there; pretty much everything happened except for having sex with each other (however she did meet him with the intentions of having sex but refused his advances). She also began to date an ex through the phone a lied about it and began to make plans to move in with him (they're had off and on communication for three years) ; she broke it off with him. Shortly after that she created a PoF profile with the intention of seeing if she could date someone else. Everything came to a head when she dropped me and our daughters of at a mall so she could meet up with someone. I threatened a divorce and told her I spoke with a lawyer about our assets and such. She realized how serious I was and started to change; she apologized for her behavior and has taken step to repair the damage. HOWEVER, she told the family friend that things were over between them and she wanted to work things out with me. He got angry and asked if she was pregnant because that's the only reason why couple work things out, she told him and said she didn't want to marriage to fail and wanted to keep the family together. After she go off the phone with him she admitted that she lied to him saying she told him were getting a divorce and he was a revenge relationship but didn't want to tell him that. A few days later he texted her and the conversation turned into her saying things wouldn't have worked out between them, he wanted a change to prove that, and he told her once he's allowed minors in two years he wanted a chance. How do I solve this without causing a fight between me and her? The guy didn't know she was a revenge date, he didn't show she was talking to other guys, didn't know she made plans to run off with someone else, what's the best way if he keep up this behavior? Link to comment
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