AZ27 Posted May 7, 2019 Share Posted May 7, 2019 Hi everyone, have a bit of a predicament, after breaking up with my fiance I had recently started to enter the foray of dating again and signed up to Bumble and had met this great guy, the only issue being that he is two years younger than me. Thinking that it honestly wouldn't be leading to anything really substantial and other reasons I felt that perhaps dating online wasn't really for me. I deleted my account and didn't think much about it, the next day he had messaged me on Facebook and from our chats it seemed like he was genuinely interested in getting to know me. I decided to play it cool and go on a date, and give him chance. At the time it wasn't like I had anything to lose, and it seemed like the age thing wasn't an issue for him. During our date is when things started to get slightly difficult to read, he has an excellent poker face and from what I could gauge he seemed relatively interested in getting to know me but incredibly nervous and I had to ease the tension a lot by steering most of the conversation, but I think we did have a good vibe. Lots of jokes, laughing, smiling and generally got along well, but towards the end of the date he didn't seem that keen to arrange another date, also I felt that he was in rush to leave despite mentioning before that he was free the whole day. I let it pass thinking that I'll probably not hear from him ever again and to be honest didn't have much hopes for it to begin with and saw it mainly as a chance to get back into the dating game. Now, he messages me every day, consistently. I had replied back thinking that perhaps I had overreacted and not all guys are the same or find it easy to express their interest. It has gotten to the point where we have this good chemistry via messaging and I'm starting to develop feelings but am unsure if he thinks this is just friendship, he is always responsive but avoids meeting in real life, every time I subtly hint at it he always comes up with an excuse. That is a red flag as I have caught him out a few times, and I now I don't really trust him nor understand what the deal is. There was an incident where my data had run out and his messages were not coming through for a couple of hours and I noticed that he had rang me on Whatsapp. Later, when I asked him about it he said that he had mistakenly called me and had gotten side tracked. We also never talk on the phone. I am afraid to confront him about it as we are not in a relationship that I feel warrants it but I also don't want to invest my time in someone who isn't being very clear about what he wants. I'm happy to just be friends as we do have a lot of things in common I just wish he would be clear about it. Would really appreciate some advice as to what to do? And if anyone has been in a similar situation. Is it best to just cut him out of my life for good? Link to comment
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