Lougee Posted May 7, 2019 Share Posted May 7, 2019 I've been in a relationship with a married Muslim man for a year now. At first it was only about work, he was a client. We met on LinkedIn. Started messaging for months, about 6 months before we actually met each other. Those 6 months was only about work and projects.. When we met, it was an unfortunate time for me, as I had financial issues. He helped. We started messaging again and he started to come over my place every now and then. When I asked I'm if he has a wife he said "HAD". It was grammatically wrong, I didn't know that time.. I thought he was divorced.. He lied about a lot of things, things which I already have forgiven and moved on about it. After a few months, He introduced me to his mom and kid. They both liked me. He slept over countless times until it became an everyday thing (though I don't know what time hell be home). His wife just gave birth to twins at that time, and his mom was okay about our relationship. He had problems at work, and lost his job. He had to send home his wife and kids as well as his mother. I was with him through everything, all his problems, trying to solve them, handling paper work, everything. When his wife left, we started to officially live together... He had so much problems and I was trying to be there for him, trying to solve them with him. Im bipolar, depressed and have anxiety. I'm a bit much to handle. I always ask him when he'll tell his wife the truth.. He kept on saying "a matter of time" Came to a point I begged him to love me and choose.. He still couldn't. Begged him again, he still said he couldn't... Up until now, he still couldn't. Up until now it hurts me to see his wife message as if they were okay. According to him he has not spoken to her for months now. And I try to believe it. But I can't help wonder how come she messages him as if things were fine. According to him their marriage is no longer about love. It's about responsibilities. And he's staying married for the kids. Now everything's a mess.. There money issues, petty fights, p*rn, dating sites, wife issue, my own issues with my life like work and a visa, he as well has a problem with his work and visa. For a few days now I've been quiet. I've been crying, I couldn't sleep, I couldn't eat. I don't want to leave him... But do I even have a choice? Link to comment
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