unknown231 Posted May 6, 2019 Share Posted May 6, 2019 My girlfriend and I have been dating for over a year and everything seemed to be going smoothly. Before we started dating she dated this guy for about a week and then he basically ignored her. She also lost her virginity to him. She found out that he was the kind of individual that pushed people away when he was depressed which is what he did to her for months. She kept sending him messages but he kept ignoring her. She told me that she was hurt by this which is understandable. This happened for about 3 months and then decided to "break up" with him and she started liking me. We ended up dating for over a year however during the summer (4 months) we live far apart and theres no chances in visiting. We started dating a month before the first summer. After the 4 months, school started and everything was great. We were both happy and school was stressful but it was fine because we spent alot of time together and we would sleep over at each others. Maybe 2-3 times at most during the year she would be upset on a random day and then she and I would have this talk which is about her ex boyfriend and how she cant get him off her mind. She tells me that she loves me and I believe her, but on some days she says that she cant stop thinking about him. She told be that she blocked him on Facebook, instagram and everywhere. I thought that would be the end of that. One day she tells me that she unblocked him or something, not sure how it happened but that her ex messaged her saying sorry and how he doesn't understand why she has to block him and how he hurt her so much. She told me that she didn't know what to do so eventually they ended up meeting up to talk for about 20 mins and she told him that she was dating me and that she doesn't want anything to with him. However, her ex tells her that even though he dated other girls he kept thinking about her and that he would be waiting for her if anything were to happened between her and I (IMO an extremely move). Now its summer again and her and I are apart. One of our friends told my girlfriend that she saw my gf's ex on Tinder and might still be in the city for the summer, however we are not sure if he is actually staying. My gf told me that the reason she thinks that she cant get over him is because he told her that he would wait for her and that gave her the thought that there's someone who cares for her. She tells me that she does not want to get back with him. She says that she wants to get rid of this guilt and pain really badly and she thinks that the only way to get rid of it is to get back together with him but then she knows that she will miss me and that I will basically become the new him. My girlfriend believes that she has depression and school is causing her alot of stress. She just wants all of it to end. It's complicated, I know and I want to be with my girlfriend and she tells me that she wants to be with me. I truly believe that. Her and I are not "frat" people and I believe that we truly love each other, but her ex is just causing us troubles. What can i do in this situation? What should I do in this situation? Thanks for reading all of this. If there's anything you'd like to know, please let me know. I'll answer. Link to comment
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