score123 Posted May 4, 2019 Share Posted May 4, 2019 Hello! What I'm writing is about an attraction that has some months that has happened. As I found this guy very very closed to the type I would love to be with, very intelligent, respectful, nice, in peace with himself, but a bit shy though, I don't want to let it go. We attended the same course months ago and I cannot explain how but I am sure I feel it there was a kind of attraction between us. Anyway, he never asked me out, reasons may be different ones: he is shy, I didnt speak very very well his language(german), we were so busy with the course etc. Buut sometimes, we could walk home together from course since we lived closed. I underdtood that I wanted more time to spend with him, but didnt know how. Was confusef because of not speaking very well the language, but sometimes he could give me hints like asking what I was going to do, what movies music I like, if I would go to the cinema, if i had seen that movie, that basketball game(he was very fond of it), also he remembered detsils of what i said last time(important), etc. Practically i felt like we were going out when walking home, even though not that often(he used to work afterwards the otger days). I forgot the pther side of the story: I am a wonderful person to talk about things, but a bit nervous/shy/cold until I feel comfortable. I never take risks approaching first. The course came to an end, right? And we didnt have the possibility to say goodbye or smth else. At this point I felt dissapointed that he never asked me out. Maybe I thought he isnt interested. It hurt a bit(you rarely find people with whom you have thst much to share with even though you may have the pressure of not expressing yourself very well since i didnt speak perfectly german/communication is very important). So dissapointed... but found the way to move on. After 2 months I had a promotion at work, and I dont know how but probably because he knows people from that organisation he knew it. I didnt know that he was aware of my promotion until I saw a message where he congratulated me. Buut dissapointed from first time, I just thanked him very much and thats all. I didnt continue conversation. Maybe that was wrong but I thought that wouldnt get me anywhere, maybe that was just a congratulations honest message without the intention of pushing thibgs forward. So with this logic, i decided to do the minimum in order to not get dissapointed again, even though it hurt. Buut I decided instead to send him a wishing message for an important celebration we had some days later. Soo I let the ball in his court this way. Or I thought so... after one week we again had in our country another important celebration. That day I saw a wishing message from him. It made me happy, but again nothing happened.... Now we have some months without contacting each other, and I have this strong beleif that both of us need some pushings. We dont ask other people just casually. I have been thinking about him so much during this time to be honest. And I dont know what the future may bring, but in some months we have an inbviation to my previous organisation, so Im just asking: will we have a chance to improve what we did wrong? Should I still keep hopes smth. may still happen during that meeting or the goose is already cooked? What could you have done differently for things to work? Ps. we dont work for same organisation and the course lasted 6 months or more, we got to know each other. Thanks! Link to comment
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