DerekM Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 Yes, really. This has become very serious issue in my relationship with my wife, and I feel my wife has made it an issue with my 14yo daughter. I desparately want other perspectives on how to handle this with her and my family. I am being shamed all the time (often in front of my daughter), being told I am selfish for not putting my family first, and irresponsible to my own health. I feel guilty all the time, sneak food, sneak beer (I love beer), and often avoid friends because my wife doesn't approve of me having a beer. I find it demeaning and, honestly, taking the joy out of my life. But am I selfish? Should I just suck it up and go 1000% gluten free (and diary free btw) to support my 14yo who has also been gluten free for many years. Is this an issue of not putting my family first? Background. My wife does have a serious issue with gluten resulting in calling the ambulance a couple of times. She became rather obsessed with gluten free lifestyle, went to conferences, had a blog for a while, read all the books, etc.. She had barrages of tests to confirm she has intolerance (not celiac) and so does my daughter, and so do I apparently. Yes, I do feel better when I avoid gluten. But it is my choice. I give the analogy of diabetes. What is my wife and daughter had diabetes? Would I be expected to live my life as a diabetic? Of course, I would be mindful of not eating certain foods around them as home, as I do now with gluten, but being expected to go 1000% diabetic would not be reasonable in my view. Or am I wrong? My wife feels that at this difficult age of my daughter's life, I need to be more supportive. Am I a bad parent? Again, its not like I eat gluten and drink beer around them. I'm 100% gluten free at home. But why should I have to hide the fact that I eat/drink other things when away? I feel like I'm cheating! And is it appropriate for my wife to make this a central issue in our family? Bring it up in front of my daughter? Have both of them at me and expecting me to go gluten free? FORCE me? I would appreciate your thoughts and, most importantly, what might be a kind, yet firm, way of dealing with this issue. Or, please be honest, tell me if I'm in the wrong and need to just suck it up and try to change my lifestyle. Link to comment
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