anonymous198 Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 I've come to realise that I have created a somewhat unhealthy relationship. It still has potential to be something great but I need advice on ways I can become more independent. I think I put too much pressure on him. I feel like we don't do much the good stuff and he says it's because I'm always putting pressure on. He says putting pressure on pushes him back, which makes me put on more pressure to try and make things work. So we end up in a cycle. I'm working hard to try and be ok endnote anxious about just getting out there doing my own thing. Earlier in our relationship he questioned everything I did so it make it very very difficult for me to keep seeing and talking to the people I was at the time. Therefore I don't really have any contacts or friends locally (especially as I'm not from this city) I also work from home which doesn't help. I've started just leaving the house as he's due home to go to the supermarket on my own. I have started going upstairs to read in the evening in bed instead of waiting for him to ask if we should go bed. I used to feel everything was always on his terms, when he wants, as he wants, with who etc but maybe that was because of me. Maybe I allowed that to happen. I think now I need to take control and do things half on my terms. Any tips and advice would be very helpful as I'm very keen to be proactive and try and make this relationship work. Link to comment
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