PJM Posted May 3, 2019 Share Posted May 3, 2019 Hello Friends, Briefly, I was in love less & sexless marriage for more than 5 yrs . I was very focused on building a career and finally settling very well in my present job. I was very attracted to man at work and our glance met and there was a connection , he felt it and I felt it. After that I let it go as I thought he is a good looking man might be having beautiful wife or girlfriend and left it like that. Then when I one day he came to be and said something does not look right with you , here is my number and you are free to call me any time.( He is a law enforcement officer and I am a provider and usually is with me when I am seeing patients I in this case (inmates )T hen he found me on face book messenger and started messaging me . Very simple as " Merry Christmas " & " Happy New Year and I ignored his card first and happened to reply to his messages as Thank you same to you and kept on blocking him for some time. He would message like be safe its going to bad weather today or drive carefully ... stuff like that , I increasingly got attracted to him obviously for lack of love and attention in my life and then his extra attention from this handsome person. Bottom line long story short , I opened up about my life to him. He seemed like the best friend and empowered me , and respected my professional and encouraged and gave me strength to get out of the bad situation I was in. When I told my ex husband about him he said you are free to date him , I really don't care , it won't hurt me . So we ended up filing for legal separation. In mean time I was getting increasingly attracted towards this man who shared every thing about his life to me , How his marriage failed, how he always attracted wrong people in hid life etc...bottom line I came to know every thing about his life , we went to couple of dates and 3rd date became very intimate and it was the best experience I had in long time , he was also very attracted to me , shared that he was looking for a committed relationship and often would say we are an item ( this happened for 4 months) and we bothe were drawn to each other emotionally and physically and both felt a strong bone and connection and enjoyed each others company immensely , until I started digging more about his past ( wrong move on my part) and started talking to a colleague who was rumored his good platonic friend and asked about him. When I talked to her she seemed to have a crush on him and made me feel bad that I am dating him , the same thing she did to him and started telling him that I am digging for his information ( being married and would not look good and that it might hurt his reputation and will affect his career, bottom line he got really pissed that I was mixing relationship and work and is not ready to be a bf at this time. I also apologied for behavior and also said that I needed some space & time to work with my divorce and need time for healing and we left it like that. Since then texts have been very casual, there is still communication but more casual not intimate texting as before . My question is have I really blown any chances of having any thing with him?I really miss him ad his company. Even now when we pass each other there is lot of attraction and I know he is hurt too but currently we are on a time out on relationship status.Have I blown my chances with this guy? Link to comment
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