thelogride Posted April 23, 2019 Share Posted April 23, 2019 Hi everyone, I'll try to keep this somewhat short. My (ex) girlfriend, MaKena, and I dated for 6 months and we just broke up almost two weeks ago. We're 24 and 22 years old (I'm 22). We know each other from our hometown but I didn't ever talk to her until like 8 months ago. We had a great relationship with tons of happiness and also our fair share of problems that would arise. There weren't many problems, but our most recent problem ended up with us breaking up. MaKena comes from a split family life and has TONS of unresolved issues in her life that was very obvious to me while dating her. For example, she didn't want to see me too often because she didn't want to get too attached. I helped her take her walls down and to let me in and she was very emotional about that and made efforts to do so. She meant everything to me and I was willing to help her. She has a roommate who's been her best friend for years and she just so happens to be gay. I have nothing against gay people, but this roommate of hers did NOT like me and made that very obvious. MaKena says she owes her roommate her life for everything they've been through together, so she takes her opinion very very seriously. Megan is her name and she didn't like me one bit. In fact, if I was over at their apartment and we were both there at the same time, she would throw a little tantrum because "she's not comfortable with me there." She's very sensitive. Fast forward now to recently... we were having one of the best days of our relationship. We went to a movie and then the dog park and then went home and went to a bar with her roommate, Megan. They knew a bartender so we got free drinks. We all got pretty intoxicated and Megan hugged MaKena and mentioned something about how gay she is or something (idek). Megan then asks me something about being gay, so I respond with a question of my own. This was very insensitive what I said. I said "do you think being gay is a mental illness of some kind?" Again, very insensitive and I apologized immediately the next day for it and said that's not how I really feel and that was just a stupid thing I said and I'm sorry for it. Anyways after I asked that question it killed the mood for the night and rightfully so. It was dumb of me. So later once I sober up we leave and everything was fine but it was kinda awkward. MaKena and I said goodbye and our I love you's. Little did I know this would be the LAST words I would hear come from her mouth. Fast forward a few days and I haven't heard a peep out of MaKena. I was concerned and decided to text her and I basically said I know you're upset with my comment from the other day and I'm so sorry for that and I just want to talk to you about it. She basically responded with saying that Megan tried killing herself.... over my comment only. Nothing else. Just what I said. I felt horrible at first because that obviously isn't something I want to happen and I started apologizing immediately. MaKena was calling me this terrible person and she couldn't even look at me if I was in front of her and she didn't know if she could stay with someone as immature and horrible as I am. Now, I already apologized for this many times and I feel horrible about saying it, but at the same time, honestly get over it??? MaKena and I went back and forth because I started to stand up for myself and say I didn't deserve to be treated like a monster for saying something stupid that I apologized for. Yes, you can be mad at me but come on, I don't think it warrants everything else. So she basically said she doesn't think she can be with me anymore after that. So I panic and go speak to her mom and her sister about it. I went there because I was concerned for MaKena and her situation. She has a suicidal roommate and MaKena told me that she, MaKena, has been having panic attacks and hasn't ate for days because of all this that I caused with one dumb question. She got super pissed because I went to her mom and she hates whenever I talk to her family without her there (she has family issues) so that basically nailed the coffin shut. She said she was done and was at peace with everything and wishes I could get there too. This all happened OVER TEXT in ONE DAY. I've gone strictly no-contact for almost 2 weeks now and haven't heard a word from her at all. Is she really over me from this ONE thing? This was so sudden and I don't know what to think of it. I almost feel like we're playing a waiting game on who will cave and ask for each other back. Personally knowing her, she definitely won't do that. I really do love her and care for her and want her back. I've been thinking about calling her and hopefully leaving her a message on voicemail to apologize for everything I did by disrespecting her and basically tell her how much she meant to me and all that. Is that a good idea? I don't know what else to do. Help me please.. Link to comment
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