Outis90 Posted April 22, 2019 Share Posted April 22, 2019 Hey,since entered into a relationship at a very rocky time if my life. I initially thought everything was ok (with me) and we hit it off straight away after knowing each other for years! But never romantically or as friends just family associates. During the first few weeks of our relationship we have dealt with issues of an alcoholic cousin from his side. And a number of issues from mine. ( found out my ex boyfriend who was my closest friend before a relationship was sleeping with my other female best friend) my partner obviously knew as he was aware of my ex cheating on me with his cousin in my house!! I disclosed some information about previous sexual abuse to him also. So after finding out these things I had a breakdown. My anxiety hit the roof. I was a mess. I saw no point. He stood by me and supported me through it (not easily) I felt his reactions to everything made my anxiety worse and so I pushed myself further to get help and I've completely changed my attitude around. I finally feel I've met someone I can trust. But my doubts are getting the better of me. He mentioned he was only with me for my son's sake and to see where we go to save hitting my son. But now it seems everytime I open my mouth and talk about anything. My past is being thrown at me. We cant have a conversation now without him thinking hes done it all. The progress with my son he seems to take responsibility for. I mean when my son does a new sport like archery (hes done it before) but my partner will take credit. His words. "Since I've been on the scene, he has progressed so much. I've saved him" My son did everything before but it seems lately the 6 years of my sons life hes called me a mom and basically feels like hes saved him. He doesn't like photos, he doesn't want to be tagged in social media. Gair enough but now it seems he wants to do things justbhoma and my son (play dates with his friends children whilst I'm off work and I'm not invited.) Am I being unreasonable to have these thoughts running through my mind?? Theres so much that has happened. I pulled over in a parking lane to stretch my legs after driving for 2 hours and he spoke to me like I was nothing. Told me I was pathetic and being melodramatic for wanting to stretch my legs in a designated parking lane! I gave up the arguement. I'm tired now. I dont know what to do for the best. I feel inadequate, I dont feel like he wants to be around me anymore and he is only sticking around for my son. If anyone has suffered any abuse and disclosed to a partner, had a breakdown in the early stages of a relationship. I would appreciate any advice or a chat. I dont knownwhere to turn. I'm completely in love with him. But I just dont think he feels the same. I've been gone now for God knows how long to have a cigarette. It's not even noticed I'm gone :-( Link to comment
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