Floorguy1971 Posted April 22, 2019 Share Posted April 22, 2019 First, this was a 9 year marriage. Very rocky one at that. Several break ups and miscommunications. 2 years ago I felt as if we had it all worked out. I made alot of changes to myself for hope of a better future with her. Wasnt the case. Where i changed she took advantage of me. Became very clear to me we needed to end this. And so i did. These 9 years I bent over backwards to give her what she wanted and have only realized now that it was a one way street with her. I payed her way on most everything and she would leave me to panic when finances wasnt there to pay the bills..... Getting to the point....2 weeks into break up and 1 week after i filed, a distance friend advised me she was on a dating site. That really added insult to injury but i was ok because im done with her. A few days later (and quite a few beers) i got curious to see for myself. I created a fake profile of someone and searched specifically for her age and location. Waala....there she is. Obviously i created more insult to myself...i mean, how does someone get out of a 9 year marriage and doesn't give themselves time to heal. I think i know the type and this ive confirmed of her. The type that is only in the marriage to coast along on ones coat tales and enjoy the benefits of not having to be responsible for themselves. IMO that is. The worst part is her description of herself. Complete BS of lies. Twisted truths and exaggeration of who she truly is and what she is looking for in another man. Sure this upsets me to realize ive been played. I really want to reach out and lash back at her in cruel ways. Honestly though that really isnt my style. I truly do feel bad for her "next" that she will play. My question.... Ive thought of maybe a "buyers beware" post on the same dating site to warn others. Sounds childish and petty but in the end i would want to know myself. Ive googled to see if maybe someone has done this already (thats how i found this site) and have come up empty. I m thinking a fake profile as a woman with her screen name in the headline. From there i thought i would just simply explain what the last 9 yrs have been like with her and what she has done to me. I can back all this up cause ive saved all her angry text to my email. (Attorney's advice) i know some how i should end it with something like "enter at your own risk". I am hurt by this (not only the dating site but also the 9 yrs of failed marriage) but im glad she moving on and not continuing to cause me heartache. Would love to hear thoughts on this even if your gonna bash me as well. Link to comment
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