jojojojojojo Posted March 28, 2019 Share Posted March 28, 2019 Please accept my apologies for any grammatical and spelling mistakes as I am typing this on my phone. Context: i work with my boyfriend and I am in a role where I rely heavily on my colleagues while he is in a role which requires no teamwork. The work environment is quit toxic with micromanagement, anger outburst from colleagues and favoritism being evident everyday. We are both impacted by this but the flexible hours and relatively good pay keeps us there given our current financial circumstances. He is quit emotionally impacted by the work environment and the people we have to work with. While I was the same, I have worked hard to be resilient and have accepted that the advantages outweigh the disadvantages, at least for now. To make my life easier I try to be friendly with my managers and colleagues which my boyfriend is not happy about. He voices that it’s hard for him to see the difference between how I am at work and how I am at home. I have explained that I need to maintain a level of professionalism at work, especially when I rely quite a bit on my colleagues in order to get the job done. I feel that while I am friendly, I am not being inauthentic - I just show more of myself at home. On top of this, he has a big issue with me speaking with male colleagues. Colleagues who are all either in relationships or are married. Most if not all of them are 10-20 years older than me and are aware of my relationship and they all work with my boyfriend as well. I have tried to avoid them to the best of my abilities but it’s very hard given the nature of my work and the work culture. I try to avoid them during my breaks but sometimes it’s hard to avoid general office small talk from time to time. This situation is draining emotionally and greatly hinders my job and possibility of a career progression - I feel that it’s kind of unreasonable for him to ask me to avoid all male encounters in every context. Am I being reasonable or am I crazy? Link to comment
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