orangezdsh Posted March 24, 2019 Share Posted March 24, 2019 Hello, A few weeks ago I told my boyfriend I thought we needed a break because we was arguing a lot and wasn’t really appreciating each other. He was devastated and really upset and so was I, it only took me a few days to go back to him and tell him that I really missed him and if he just gave me space for a week I’ll meet him at the weekend and we can talk about things. He didnt overly give me space - he messaged me quite a bit but I guess I confused him by telling him I wanted to get back together. We met up and we got back together. However, I think I wasn’t given enough space and I was beginning to feel miserable again just days into the relationship. After just over a week I told him it wasnt working and we was just being miserable again, he asked me to give him another chance but I told him I didn’t have the hope things would change. Now we’re in sixth form together, we get the same bus and are in a lesson together (just to help you understand the situation better). But, again, after a couple of days I realised I’d made a mistake and I didn’t want to lose him. And this time I know things will be better and I’ll appreciate him a lot more because I’ve had the shock of nearly losing him. I asked my ex’s friend if he would ask him if he’d talk to me in person, his friend told me he’s confused and doesn’t want to speak to me in person but I can message him and he can choose whether he wants to reply or not. I wrote a message telling him how I made a mistake and I know I’ve been an awful girlfriend by messing him around and that I’d do anything to be with him because I’d been blind to my feelings before. He replied telling me “I dont hate you, I dont even slightly dislike you; but I am so angry at you” “I understood why you wanted to break up the first time but this second time was such a bull reason” “If the girl I fell in love with who clearly cared about me is gone then I dont ever see us getting back together” “If we do get back together we will not be starting where we left off, we are back at square one and we might be able to work from there if I feel like I can trust you again” “i dont want you throwing a stop just because we arent getting back together straight away” I replied saying I totally understand and I’m willing to give him as much time as he needs, and I promise that I will never give up because this relationship means everything to me and he replied “We’ll see what happens”. The next day in college he looked at me and said hi in our lesson, he smiled at me and asked me some questions about the lesson when he was stuck. I haven’t heard from him over messaging or social media and I’ve read up everywhere that the best thing to do is give him space and he should come back. By the things he said in that message and the way he acted at college do you think I have a chance if I let him have space? Should I message him checking up on him in a week or so or should I have no contact until he initiates it? I don’t have many people to talk to about this so I’m just looking for advice. Thank you. Link to comment
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