Anonymiss246 Posted March 17, 2019 Share Posted March 17, 2019 Thanks for reading and lending an ear x CONCERN: I'm feeling disregarded by my partner, and recently it feels like I'm more or less not even there anymore; like i am just another object sitting on the edge of his peripherals. QUESTION: Now I'm wondering if this is because I'm being too emotionally "needy" or attached in the relationship, or are my feelings reasonable? and if reasonable, could this simply mean that he is losing feelings for me or that he is taking me for granted??? 😔 I don't know, any advice or insight right now would be appreciated. I'd really just like to vent my frustrations and feel heard. If this feeling persists i will discuss it with him regardless. CONTEXT: My partner and i just moved in together, after spending over a year living apart semi long distance, into an area where we both barely now anyone. So essentially we are now each others main go-to for one on one conversation and interactions. Now, I am a very affectionate person and come from a big social family, so i like to express my love often through: compliments, small acts of kindness, playfulness and physical touch. E.g: i tell him how handsome he is from the moment he wakes up, i make him dinner or clean his laundry, i like to play fight, give him tickles and massages etc. Now, until we moved in together, we would see each other for 1-2 days at a time each week and he would be just the same as me. He'd tell me how beautiful i was, be playful, love constant cuddles and want to provide me with his full attention for meaningful conversation, and during intimacy. Now fast forward to tonight, I'm lucky if i get a hello or a hug as he comes home from work. He is straight to a beer and youtube. No hugging or chatting during the show, then off to bed as soon as its over. The cycle continues. No sweet compliments or affectionate talk, no teasing or playfulness, no cuddling or even a desire to look at me half the time, and no conversation that has depth. It's like we exchange pleasantries, have sex then sleep. It's starting to feel soulless. Even the sex has a business like aspect to it now. This sounds so pathetic, but the lack of attention and personal intimacy has really been getting to me. Tonight he just got up and left for bed, without any form of good night or asking me to join him, just swept himself out of there. Another sting is that he shows no interest in what I'm studying, where I'm working or where my interests lie- even though i go out of my way to show interest in him. I don't know. It just feels like when he is around me, he is turned off by my presence? By my mere touch? I feel so alone and empty, like I'm pouring everything I've got into a broken glass. No matter how hard i try he is just not interested. I'm starting to feel at a loss. Link to comment
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