sharpeybrows Posted March 16, 2019 Share Posted March 16, 2019 My boyfriend and I are both 36 and our son just left a few months ago for university abroad in eastern Europe where his GF and son live.. We have been together for 20 years and we have been honestly planning this moment for a long time. The moment the kids leave the house and you can walk around naked so to speak . instead what has happened is that i caught a bug sadly and my boyfriend could not sign off on a document because he was not next of kin After my father signed the paperwork and i got treated , i felt that we needed some legal protection in cases where health and property were involved. Without letting me finish he said we are not getting anything done that ties us together legally. Currently I own the house we live in and he pays rent for extra car garage where he keeps his hunting equipment for his company. he rents from me because for years he refused to be on the deed. Instead he wanted a tenants agreement and i went along with it , the same story for bank accounts health insurance etc etc . The mortgage is paid off and he still pays rent for garage equal to half the bills before the mortgage was paid off. I explained to him that he doesn't need to pay that amount anymore and he shrugs it off and says take a day to the spa and treat yourself. ignoring the entire point i am trying the make, every conversation happens like this he just ignores what i am saying and responds either in general or besides the point. When we sit down and talk calmly he says we have been living a certain way for X amount of years and if you are not happy then we should maybe take separate paths. I have talked to him about how all this is making me feel and now that our son just left i want to spend more time together but also plan for the unplanned like sickness etc . He just keeps repeating the same thing , things were good before lets keep things that way . He was never like this , he is a great father and lover and just feel like i am in a house with a man i don't know anymore For years i went along with everything from owning the house alone despite the fact that I wanted to own it together to getting married which i also ended up forgetting about after 15 years of him saying i don't want to get married. advice would be greatly appreciated Link to comment
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