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How much does it cost to have a gf?

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I'll try to look past the incredibly cringy way the question was framed. Having a girlfriend isn't like owning a car. Try not to frame it like taking her to dinner is the same as changing your oil.


Aside from whatever you're spending for yourself when going out to do whatever, it costs as much as you want to spend on her. For me, absent birthdays or something, it was close to nothing. I dated women who were fine or even happy to pay their way. While you probably don't want to be flat broke, dating and being in a relationship doesn't have to be a money sink.

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Well if we’re still talking about escort services, depending on the quality I think it’s several hundred.


Just basic dating? Well like jman said really depends on what you want to spend there.


Me personally if you’re more hung up on who’s paying for what than the actual dating I’m not going to waste my time. I’m there to date you not deal with Freudian female/mommy issues. It’s only an issue if you make it one.


Not sure why you’re asking though considering your current status, have you actually gone out on a date or is this post to convince you not to?

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I'm going to take a wild guess and presume money is an issue for you since you asked in another thread for free dating apps.


Most of my favorite dates were free or close to free. I love me a nice walk or hike through a place with awesome scenery. I might want a cup of tea and a pastry after, so we're talking about $8 or so.

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Dating shouldn't be factored in as a cost.


I dated a guy who was in debt. We made cute cheap dates and stuff.


But if you are not financially stable. Maybe the best thing to do is focus on you and your finances and then think about dating.


Like doing cute dates out can add up. Also some girls don't believe in splitting cost if meals and activities (it's the modern world... Why some people feel men should pay is beyond me - this is just my opinion and not everyones).


Dating a girl shouldn't be anymore cost than going out with friends. If it is... Rethink the situation. Everyone is different to be fair.

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I wouldn’t recommend dating anyone unless you have a job and can afford to go out here and there .


Also depends what type of women you’re going out with , some are cool with doing simple things , while others like going out quite a bit . It just really depends.


But I totally understand that you can feel like you’ve “ wasted” money and time with someone if things go south .

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Do not spend money if it will feel like a waste if it goes south. Understand every relationship goes south except the last one, however long that takes.


Spend your money when you want a date, and regard it as a mutual kindness. They are kind enough to join you for an activity of YOUR choosing. You host them. I do this with my friends, even.

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This is a strange question to ask as usually if someone likes another person, the cost of dating them isn't something you think about much.


I'm guessing you're young and have limited finances so I'll use my 17 year old son and 20 year old daughter as an example (they both work).


My son is a romantic, he buys his girlfriend flowers once a week. When they eat out they share the costs together, except he doesn't have his full licence yet so he regularly pays for her fuel. This year he spent $200 for Christmas presents for her and for her birthday (he will be 18) he's planned a trip to Bali for them, which he's paid for her flights......$600. My son might be an exception, as his friends girl friends always comment how much he spoils her.


My daughter and her boyfriend also share costs and occasionally spend a lot of money on gifts. Her boyfriend gave her an $1000 diamond ring for Christmas.


When you get my age (40 ish) and still believe in being a gentleman by paying for dates it can be quite expensive. Over a year and a half after my divorce, I spent at least $3500 on dates (I went on quite a few)


This might sound crazy and is an exceptional circumstance, but my current GF lives 15,000 km away and I gambled $5000 for travel and expenses for what could have been a 10 minute coffee date...... Luckily it went well.


I've been with her for a little over two years and I would hate to add up the costs of dating her.... Probably $20,000+, but coming from an abusive marriage, it's money well spent as I've never met a more caring, consistent and compassionate woman.


Although it's not her culture to do so, she often pays for her own expenses when we are together.


If you're young, dating shouldn't cost much. In western culture now days it's expected that costs will be shared, but saying that, be a gentleman and always pay for the first few dates or if you specifically ask her somewhere. Small simple gifts given for no reason other that you love her go a long way and a bit more though on birthdays, Valentines day and Christmas is important.

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I'm curious about how much does it cost to have a gf? I know cost will be different for everyone. But roughly about how much do you guys spend in a week/month? Thanks


Like your other post I agree – having a real girlfriend is not where your expenses start to develop. If you wine and dine woman Then the expenses increase depending on what all do you want to do. I would encourage you not to be a cheap date as women can’t find those on every corner. If she is important to you then do your best to show her that. That has nothing to do with money. Stay true to yourself and do not get lost chasing her.

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