abitbroken Posted March 14, 2018 Share Posted March 14, 2018 I ment more like i had nothing to do with any sort of dating or relationships all the way until I was about 21, i started lightly dating. Took about a year off, now that I turned 23-24 I'm now like all about it, and having no luck. It just feels like I'm cursed, I just don't understand how people get into relationships like everyone does. I'm told on a daily basis how good I look, I'm super responsible, I'm a great listener, I'm passionate, I talk things over with the person, I have style, I have a great job with everything that I want, I'm fun when I want to be and serious when I want to be, I have lots of different hobbies and interests, I'm smart, I'm funny, im very laid-back, im understanding, im patient, I'm in-shape and built well, i put 110% into everything and want to be all about the girl that i just cant seem to have...like I don't possibly see where I could be lacking, and for some reason every single girl that crosses by me, SOMETHING, no matter how odd it is, happens. Like I seriously am about to just give up it's such a joke, I'm sick of being hurt time and time again over who knows what. I can go on and on about how ridiculous this has become. I'm not being self-centered at all, just out of pure observation, and what I've been told by others and what I've done in life, I feel like I can be the perfect person for really anybody. Like I have absolutely everything necessary. Yet I just cannot, no matter what, find a girl. Maybe it's cause i just deal with online dating, i have no idea. The fact that I messaged her tonight and she's not even messaging me back has me worried. She may not be messaging you back because she is married. Read the bolded sentence. Let me get this straight - you are not divorced, were not in a long term relationship where the girlfirend cheated and you are saying you have been "hurt" so many times. if you are "hurt" by every woman because they don't call you back -- tells me that you get overinvested in each woman you meet and you also have to change your mindset. Look at every date as just that -- A date. Part of it is a numbers game (you have to kiss a few frogs before finding a princess and unlike meeting women in real life where you don't ask out the ones you don't click with, you have to actually go out if you meet them on a dating site), but the other part is being choosy and having boundaries. When you find a hard dealbreaker (married, a drug dealer, lives in another country and is just looking for a boytoy for a few weeks to pass the time while she is here, not over their ex), you say NEXT in your mind. You say you can be perfect anyone - good abs don't last for life. are you looking for women that share the deeper things with you such as life goals (kids/no kids), faith/worldview, family style, etc? Just keep swimming, and sometimes its not about putting 110% into everything - because if you do, there is no room for the other person to do the same... Link to comment
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